Becoming Enough: An Author's Journey #2

Writing a book about becoming enough brings with it plenty of opportunities to practice what I preach and be okay with who I already am and trust the inherent perfection of all things. (If you are curious just what my book is about, check this out.)

This can certainly feel challenging when I’m in the midst of deadlines (albeit self-imposed). Before the year was out, I found myself thinking, “I’m behind schedule.” My intention had been to write a chapter a week starting in November and I went a couple of weeks without writing or submitting anything to my publisher. In the past, it would have been all too easy to think of myself as a failure, to see how I’m not doing enough, how I’m slacking off and will never make it in life. (Yes, that is how extreme my ego can make things.)

Instead, I took deep breath and said, “It’s enough.” I celebrated what I had accomplished (having written nearly 17,500 words and receiving clear inspiration for the cover design) as opposed to focusing on what I hadn’t. And, like all things do, it unfolded perfectly. I am writing the chapter I am to write now. The conversations I have had recently, the mental clarity I have today, the lessons I’ve learned each day leading up until now have prepared me for what it is I am to write about. I couldn’t have written what I was “supposed to” write in December before now.

This is the magic of creation—of life—when we get out of our own way. 

Now, when I am “behind schedule,” I trust that what is meant to come through me will come through me at exactly the right time. This is true because I am open and willing. As I deepen into this trust, I can release my need to control things, feel “less than,” or be hard on myself when things don’t initially “go as planned.” This is available to all of us; it is not something reserved for me as a writer of being enough. 

If you didn’t read my last update on how I got to where I am today, I invite you to take a peek to better understand the many steps that unfolded perfectly in their own perfect time. And, be sure to sign up to receive future updates directly to your inbox along with early-bird opportunities to get your copy of Becoming Enough including an opportunity to receive a copy for free!

Becoming Enough: An Author's Journey #1

As the new year begins, I am filled with gratitude that a dream is becoming true thanks to the support and generosity of so many people in my life. Creating and bringing a book into the world takes more than just one person. Like raising a child or birthing any creative project, it takes a village.

I am blessed and grateful to have a tribe of people who support me and can help me bring this book into the world. My successfully funded Kickstarter campaign is one small example of the power of the collective. Nearly 150 people pledged over $7,500 to make this book a reality.

Starting today, I desire to update you on the writer’s journey, sharing with you what it took to get here and what it feels like to take one step at a time as this book is brought into the world. In this update, I want to share with you a very brief overview of bringing this book into existence. This book is a long time coming. It didn’t start when I launched my Kickstarter campaign in October of last year. It started long before that with an idea, an inkling, an inspiration. This is how all things start. Like a seed was planted and it took months and years of being watered and receiving sunlight to blossom into the thing it is today. And, just like nature, it takes less doing and more being on my part than one might think. It’s not that I haven't done anything—but the practice is to get out of the way more than it is to make it happen.

Here is a very quick tour through what the journey has looked like up until this point in time and all of the incredible people who played an important role.

  • Michelle James serving as my Creative Emergence Coach served as my guide during a major transition in my life where I decided to face the fear and trust all will be well as I journeyed off on my own, paving my way to where I am today.
  • Alexandra Franzen's Tiny Book Writing Workshop. This day-long workshop gave me the courage and momentum to get my first book idea on paper and, eventually, finished.
  • Support of my mentor, Jeannine Yoder, and all of my sisters from Mentor Masterclass. Without this tribe of women in my life, I would not be where I am or who I am today. Their ongoing love and support over the past two years proved paramount to bringing this book into existence.
  • Working with Amy Biondini helped me get clear on what it is that matters most to me and how I desire to show up in the world.
  • Traveling, taking trips, and listening to my soul’s desires offered me the space to learn, grow, and begin organizing my thoughts in an inspirational way.
  • Hay House Writer’s Workshop offered me a platform to be inspired by other writers and see just how important sharing my story is with the world.
  • Steven Pressfield’s “Nobody Wants to Read Your Sh*t” and “The War of Art” served as two instrumental books in how I approach this book and the structure I have chosen to write into.
  • Finding my publisher, Jane Ashley of Flower of Life Press, was Divine. Meeting her not only brought a publisher into my life, it served as evidence how things Divinely unfold when we are in alignment and getting out of our own way.
  • The support of each and every person who contributed to my Kickstarter campaign (all 150 of you plus those who supported me energetically) provided me with the financial and emotional support to bring this book into the world.
  • Having a community of people at The Bakery who support me has been paramount, along with a special shout out to the videographer and creative genius behind my Kickstarter video, Tanner Chambers. It is people like this who make the creative process possible.

I am sure someone has gone unnamed or left off this brief list, not intentionally but simply because there are so many people who have made this possible and have supported me along this journey. Please accept my heartfelt love and thanks. You know who you are.

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Being Inspired Ep. 025: Creating Heaven on Earth with Cora Poage

What does it mean to create heaven on earth? Tune in and listen to me and the inspirational Cora Poage explore this very topic.

Cora Poage is a Certified Holistic Health Coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and holds a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. Cora’s specialty is in helping her clients align with their Soul and the Truth, fall in love with themselves, and align with their unique and Sacred Service on the planet. Cora believes that we when we align with our Soul and our Truth collectively, we create Heaven on Earth. To find out more about Cora please visit her at: https://corapoage.com/.

Join us and be inspired to create a little heaven on earth for yourself today.

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Being Inspired Ep. 024: On Needing to Know & Choosing Love Over Fear

Uncertainty and needing to know are something we all experience. How can we use these moments to deepen into love? How can we continue to choose love over fear again and again? That's what I explore in this week's episode.

Tune in and learn:

  • How nothing is an accident
  • What uncertainty and lack of clarity are asking us to do
  • How we get in our own way
  • What happens when we choose to love
  • How life offers us opportunities to get out of the way
  • What happens when we surrender and choose love

Join me in this episode and be freer to choose love over fear.

Cheers! XOXO

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Being Inspired Ep. 023: On Living Life Fully & Living a Gypsy Life with Tara Tagliaferro

Join me and the inspirational Tara Tagliaferro as we explore what it means to live life fully and live a gypsy life.

Tara Tagliaferro is a gypsy artist and collaborative coach, rekindling the creative mojo pumping in your veins for an artistry awakening, wanderlust affair, and everyday soulful life.  Globetrotting around the world performing on Broadway tours and more, Tara is a seasoned storyteller and musical comedy ham, inspired by the stylings of Golden Age greats like Carol Burnett.  As a certified coach and host of women's circles, she brings this funny girl meets fairy godmother flare to serve and simplify the big appetites of visionaries and vagabonds alike.  Come follow Tara's gypsy journey on Instagram with @taratagtickles or on Facebook as Tara Tag the Coach.  Even better, drop her a line at taratagthecoach@gmail.com or subscribe to the Gypsyhood to snag a free copy of her e-book debut this fall.

I invite you to listen and be inspired as we talk about:

  • What it means to participate in life fully and be open to everything

  • How to live a more authentic life

Join me and Tara to be more inspired to live life to the fullest!

La Vie Boheme!

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Being Inspired Ep. 022: On Letting Go to Be Born Again

This idea of letting go has been very prevalent in my life lately though it is taking on a new form than I would have once thought. Join me in this episode and learn:

  • How to look at and experience letting go in a new way
  • The key to revealing our truths and treasures
  • How we perpetuate cycles that do not serve us
  • The fears that come up when we think of letting go
  • How distracting ourselves by clinging to things is an addiction
  • What starts to happen as we start to loosen our grip
  • A powerful question to ask yourself (even though the answer can be terrifying)
  • The side effects of clinging to distractions in our lives
  • The side effects of letting go of those distractions
  • What happens when we face our fear of letting go

In this episode, I mention “A Course in Miracles” as a resource on this topic. Tune in to hear more about what I'm learning and how it might inspire you in your own life.

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Being Inspired Ep. 021: On the Power of Thoughts with Kelley Cooper

Have you ever heard that our thoughts become things? To think is to create? These are a couple of questions and ideas my guest, Kelley Cooper, and I are going to explore on this Being Inspired episode.

Tune in and learn:

  • Quantum Physics 101—how thoughts become things
  • The dance between frenzied thinking and spaciousness
  • A caution to be on the lookout for
  • What happens when we think too much
  • What happens when we are more selective with our thoughts
  • The importance of connecting with and feeling our thoughts
  • The key ingredient to thoughts becoming things
  • Different ways we connect with our thoughts and relate to our experiences
  • The power that comes with choosing what we believe about an experience
  • Reminders to carry with us to help us reframe our experiences

Kelley and I also mentioned a lot of resources that you can use for further reading:

Join us and hear what insights and gems might inspire you today!

Blessings! XOXO

Being Inspired Ep. 020: On Comparison & Our True Self

What does it mean to compare ourselves to others? Where does this come from? How does it keep us from connecting to our true self? These are just a few questions I explore on this week's episode of Being Inspired.

Listen and learn:

  • Where comparison stems from
  • What happens when our ego is in the driver’s seat
  • How we tend to experience comparison
  • What breeds and feeds comparison
  • The different directions of comparison
  • What we are believing when we are in comparison
  • Where we start to reconcile and heal our comparisons
  • What might limit us when it comes to healing ourselves from comparison
  • The reason we or others act or behave in “atrocious” ways
  • What happens when we come to terms with the truth of our wholeness (holiness)

Tune in and be inspired to explore your comparison in a new way.

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Being Inspired Ep. 019: On Experiencing the "Both/And"

Have you experienced being both happy and lonely at the same time? Were you in a position where you felt so strong yet so weak? For this week's episode, I will explore the "both/and" of things. The thin line that sets the boundary of things that seem contrasting yet complementing at the same time. How we can be both human and divine. How we can be both content and have desires. How we experience both joy and sorrow. Join me on this wonderful episode and let's both discover the "both/and" of things!

Join me in this episode and you will learn:

  • The concept of "both/and"
  • How to explore things that can be "both/and"
  • How to live a life of contentment
  • Where the separation of "both/and" exists
  • How to use "both/and" as a tool to see and accept our wholeness
  • The importance of curiosity

Listen and be inspired to experience the "both/and" of things.

Blessings! XOXO

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Being Inspired Ep. 018: On Transforming the Ego with Wendy May

Join me and Wendy May from Kaistara as we dive into a juicy and inspiring conversation about the enneagram and how it helps us realize that we are already whole and complete! You're not going to want to miss this one.

Wendy is an executive coach and leadership consultant, a former corporate ladder climber, and recovering achievement addict. Over the years, she found that many of the principles that she was using as a change consultant -- to guide people through transitions within organizations -- are also useful to help people make changes within themselves. And she wants to help facilitate these changes for the “soul purpose” of helping people find more freedom and fulfillment in their work-lives. She believes that bringing a holistic perspective to these changes is what makes them authentic and sustainable. Her personal mission is to guide people in making an intentional shift: from balancing work-life to embracing their life’s work.

In this episode, join us as we learn:

  • What the enneagram is and the power of it
  • More about the marriage between psychology and spirituality
  • How to understand the human being in a much broader capacity
  • The 9 different points of Divine quality or higher aspects of humanity
  • How to get love and what our ego has done to make us feel good
  • What ego in action is
  • That the enneagram is not about transcending the ego but transforming it

During this episode, we also pointed out the following resources:

Join us as we transform our ego.

Cheers! XOXO

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Being Inspired Ep. 017: On Addiction

In this episode, I’m talking about addiction, but not necessarily in the obvious sense of the word. When we hear the word “addiction," it’s easy to think about substance addictions, but addiction is so much more than that. In many ways, we’re all addicted. We become fixated on things, which then distract us and keep us from fully engaging with life. We use things, such as scrolling through social media or watching Netflix, in order to escape from what is.

Listen in and learn:

  • What addiction is on a much broader scale
  • How addiction affects all of our lives and shows up in other ways
  • That it is not the “thing” that causes addiction; it is our relationship to that “thing” that drives our addictive behavior
  • How we transform our relationship with these addictive behaviors
  • Where these addictive behaviors show up
  • How to see yourself in others and have compassion

Join me in this episode and be inspired to break free from whatever harmful addiction you may be struggling with.

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Being Inspired Ep. 016: On Being Perfect with Luna Love

Joining me on this episode about what it means to be perfect is the inspirational Luna Love.

Luna is a Women’s Leadership Mentor, assisting those called to be change-makers in the world, in achieving a clear vision for their lives by providing supportive, life-promoting experiences, practical tools and spiritual wisdom to align one’s divine essence, authentic expression, and life-purpose. She creates transformative experiences for her clients through the power of self-awareness and self-love.

Come and listen to this week's episode and you will learn about:

  • What “being perfect” means
  • How to leverage our imperfections
  • How to cut away “the excess” or “idea of perfectionism”
  • How we can look at an experience as “perfect”
  • Our inner Divine being
  • How we weave the tapestry of our lives
  • How we combat the fear of failing and find trust
  • How we choose to create meaning
  • Luna’s personal journey on breaking away from perfectionism
  • The importance of knowing your intention
  • The opposition of perfection
  • “What I am going for” through our perfectionism

Join me and be inspired to transform our concept of "perfectionism."

With love & gratitude

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Being Inspired Ep. 015: Radical Self-Responsibility

Self-responsbility in its simplest definition is taking into account anything that is within one's power or control. Radical, on the other hand, affects the fundamental nature of something. What happens when these two words are put together?

Tune in to this episode, and you will learn:

  • What it means to take radical self-responsibility (and what it doesn't mean)
  • A lesson I learned from an uncomfortable situation where I wanted to take blame
  • How to relate to these situations differently
  • How taking responsibility allows us to contribute in a more meaningful way
  • Two ways we don't take responsibility - which one do you do more often?
  • A radical question to ask ourselves when tragedies occur
  • A truth to accept before taking  radical self-responsibility
  • What can happen when we all take self-responsibility
  • Beliefs we need to get over before we take radical self-responsibility

Join me and be inspired to be more responsible for our own lives.

Blessings XO

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Being Inspired Ep. 014: On Finding Balance

This week's show is on finding balance—something most of us struggle with. We all know that having a balance between life and work (and pretty much everything) is difficult to achieve. It is an ongoing process. But with a little awareness and practice, there are things we can do to find our center.

With this new episode on balance, you will learn the following:

  • How we might go about finding more balance in our life
  • Living an imbalanced life
  • How we limit ourselves without even realizing it
  • The similarity (unifying force) between expanding our possibilities and limiting ourselves
  • Three stages to finding true balance in our lives
  • How my yoga practice serves as an important lesson in balance
  • The first step to finding balance
  • What we do once we find our center

If you want to know more on how to have balance in your life, I invite you to tune in and listen! Additionally, you can read more about it on my article, Three Things to Know about Finding Your Balance. Lastly, I discussed about slowing down and striking the balance between ease and steadiness in my previous show. If you haven’t listened to it yet, click here.

Blessings XO

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Being Inspired Ep. 013: Not Taking Things So Seriously & Why We Get Stuck

Welcome to my 13th episode! That means I'm a quarter of the way through a year's worth of shows. A huge thank you to those of you who have been with me this far!

This week's show is about not taking things so seriously (a much-needed reminder and permission slip for many of us) and why we so often find ourselves stuck. I invite you to have a listen and learn more about:

  • A learnable skill to experience more happiness and joy in our lives.
  • An invitation for you to practice today during times of discomfort.
  • The reason we find ourselves stuck.
  • A common misconception of being on the spiritual path.
  • The key to living with discomfort.
  • Why we keep going back to our old habits time and time again (and why it's hard to change them).
  • A way to break this habitual cycle and experience greater possibilities and more freedom.

Plus, I make mention of my favorite personality tools out there, the Enneagram, and want to make sure you have the website I reference in this episode: www.enneagraminstitute.com.

Blessings XO

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Finding Grace

grace

noun 

  1. unmerited favor.
  2. knowing that I am accepted, loved, and enough just the way I am.

This year, I had the sincere privilege of defining what grace means to me and write a story to exemplify this in an inspiring way. This definition served as the foundation for me to write my story which became part of the #1 best selling book, 365 Moments of Grace, which was released earlier this week. 

This is a realization of a practice I started doing last year—declaring my "I am's" while lying in bed before going to sleep. A practice I learned from Wayne Dyer's book, Wishes Fulfilled. And the power of the "I AM's" is mighty indeed! Here I am: a published author. I couldn't be prouder! 

I hope you enjoy my story and are inspired by the simplicity of the realization that struck me while on the subway. There are plenty more like it inside the book which I invite you to check out.

Epiphany on the F Train 

After quitting my job and exploring what it was I wanted to do and create and how I wanted to serve others, I was standing on the F train in New York City when it struck me: What if it’s not about doing more or being better; what if it’s about being good with being you?

This became my mantra and, though I didn’t know it at the time, my personal and professional mission for the next 365+ days. This was not just a pivotal moment for me; it was a whole new way of looking at the world and at my life.

Ever since I was a little girl, I looked for ways to improve myself, thinking that if I shaved the hair off my arms, then I would be accepted; if I got better grades, then I would be enough; if I figured out why I am the way I am, then I could finally “fix” it and be lovable.

I have always had this knack for self-improvement. I just love to pick up a good self-help book, curl up on the couch, and mull over all the ways I have been doing it wrong. I certainly don’t believe that personal growth is a bad thing – after all, change/growth/evolution is the only constant! The thing is, though, I spent the past 30-some years forgetting a crucial part of this: grace. Unmerited favor. Knowing that I am accepted, loved, and enough just the way I am. There is nothing I can do for this to be more or less true.

It’s all too easy for me to make things bigger, better, and faster, which is why it was so important for me to consciously set that aside and practice the thing I had neglected my entire life – love and acceptance of who I am, exactly as I am. Without this, any pursuit simply reinforces the false belief that I am not already a masterpiece and am only a never-ending work-in-progress that is not quite yet deserving of love and acceptance.

This new understanding is not the end of the story for me, and I am ready for the next stage in my evolution – but this time I know that it will include a whole lot of self-acceptance, love, and grace.

If you're interested in learning more about this book and what an incredible opportunity it has been for me and the other 250+ authors, I invite you to read more on Dan Teck's blog. He and his wife, Jodi Chapman, are the inspiration behind the 365 Book Series—a brilliant way to inspire, uplift, and remind us of just how magical our world is and how connected we truly are. 

Being Inspired Ep. 012: On Relationships with Tosha Lee Smith

Join this inspiring and juicy conversation with Tosha Lee Smith of The Beautiful Work where we offer up tons of insights and inner wisdom on the topic of relationships. I had "me, too's!" multiple times during the show with all the goodies Tosha was offering up!

I invite you to tune in and learn more about:

  • What being in relationship truly means.
  • How to approach every relationship.
  • Why we are drawn to certain relationships and what they have to teach us.
  • Common misconceptions of being in relationship.
  • Why intimate relationships trigger us so much.
  • How to find ourselves as opposed to lose ourselves while in relationship.
  • Why we find ourselves manifesting the same struggles over and over again.
  • The key to enriching our relationships with others.
  • How to experience miracles in our relationships.
  • How to handle triggers in a healthy way and why it's beneficial to do so.

In this episode, Tosha shares some resources with us that you can find here:

Happy listening! XO

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Being Inspired Ep. 011: On Having the Answers Within

This week on the show, we are celebrating my favorite number—11! In this episode, I dive into a topic that is near and dear to my heart and which has served as a major truth for me as I've been walking this path. 

I invite you to listen and be inspired as I share more about:

  • What we have in common with the flame of a candle.
  • How asking questions can benefit us.
  • Why we look outside ourselves for the answers.
  • Two types of people (which one are you?).
  • Ways we drown out our inner wisdom.
  • Three valuable skills to practice in order to better hear your inner guidance.
  • A special message for each of us to be reminded of.

Plus, I reference a very special book that I highly recommend to anyone who is interested in Buddhism or what it means to walk a spiritual path. It's Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse.

Check it out! XO

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Being Inspired Ep. 010: On Giving Birth (to Life & Ideas) with Elle Callanan

Join this inspirational conversation with Elle Callanan (www.ellehome.com) where we talk about giving birth—both literally and figuratively—and what lessons are garnered in the process. I had chills multiple times during the show with all the insights Elle was offering up!

Listen in and learn more about:

  • The lessons we learn along the way as we give birth to something 
  • The different ways we all give birth to something
  • How we often cover up or block ourselves from going into labor
  • Powerful ways to relate to fear 
  • Constrained time vs. self-oriented time
  • One reason many of us don't birth the idea or project we truly desire to
  • Patience and divine timing
  • How to set your self up for success as you prepare to give birth to a seed of an idea or new life and trust in the co-creation of it

In this episode, Elle shares some resources with us that you can find here:

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Being Inspired Ep. 009: The Freedom of Knowing Thyself

In this week's episode, I explore what freedom truly means to me and where it is found. Tune in to learn more about:

  • Where freedom for me truly lies and where I currently find it
  • How we are prisoners to ourselves
  • The path to freedom no matter where we are currently
  • One of the most important things to do to experience more freedom
  • How to know when we are imprisoning ourselves
  • Thich Nhat Hahn's perspective on freedom
  • What might happen when we compartmentalize types of freedom
  • The first step to experiencing more freedom in my life

Join me and be inspired to find and experience more freedom for yourself.

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