Ever Feel the Need to Change Someone?

Maybe it’s because I’m an idealist; maybe it’s because I see the best in everyone; maybe it’s because I’m a recovering control freak; but I just love to think I can change others—and, boy, I sure like to try. 

Whether it’s changing my partner to take care of himself better or change my brother’s perspective on a topic near-and-dear to my heart or encourage a stranger to be more mindful and less angry, I often take it upon myself to bring change about in the world. My mission statement that I wrote when I was 18-years-old was, “Reaching and changing lives through the performing arts.” Even then, I believed it was my duty (and within my power) to change others.

Now, this desire has (almost) always come from a place of love and wanting the best for others. Can’t people just see that I want the best for them and change, gosh-darnit? 

In today’s video, I share a few things I’ve heard recently which have helped bring me back to my center and remind me what’s within my control and what I’m really here to do.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wanting to change others from time-to-time (or, let’s be honest, nearly everyday), I invite you to watch today’s video as I unpack a few reminders to help you keep your cool and remain in your own power.

There’s nothing wrong with having a desire to help and change others—often this comes from such a good place and there are really great things we can do in the world that have a positive effect on people. As Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us by referencing a Paul Tillich quote, "all love eventually becomes help."

When we do something from a place of love, we are offering help without force or expectation. {Tweet that!}

The next time you catch yourself trying to change someone else, use it as an opportunity to look within, see if you are currently walking your own talk and being the change you wish to see in the world, and then offer any thoughts, insights, or resources purely from a place of love.

It is not our job to change others; it is our job to look within and share what we find from a place of love. {Tweet that, too!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you do when you find yourself feeling the need to change someone else? Offer us your insights from a place of love in the comments below.

Do you know someone who could benefit from hearing this valuable reminder? If so, please pass it along and see the ripple effect we can create by walking our own talk and sharing what we learn from a place of love.

P.S. Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty that you should or shouldn’t be doing something or that you’re doing too much or not enough? If so, I’d love for you to join me on my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24! Claim your spot here.