Becoming Enough: An Author's Journey #2

Writing a book about becoming enough brings with it plenty of opportunities to practice what I preach and be okay with who I already am and trust the inherent perfection of all things. (If you are curious just what my book is about, check this out.)

This can certainly feel challenging when I’m in the midst of deadlines (albeit self-imposed). Before the year was out, I found myself thinking, “I’m behind schedule.” My intention had been to write a chapter a week starting in November and I went a couple of weeks without writing or submitting anything to my publisher. In the past, it would have been all too easy to think of myself as a failure, to see how I’m not doing enough, how I’m slacking off and will never make it in life. (Yes, that is how extreme my ego can make things.)

Instead, I took deep breath and said, “It’s enough.” I celebrated what I had accomplished (having written nearly 17,500 words and receiving clear inspiration for the cover design) as opposed to focusing on what I hadn’t. And, like all things do, it unfolded perfectly. I am writing the chapter I am to write now. The conversations I have had recently, the mental clarity I have today, the lessons I’ve learned each day leading up until now have prepared me for what it is I am to write about. I couldn’t have written what I was “supposed to” write in December before now.

This is the magic of creation—of life—when we get out of our own way. 

Now, when I am “behind schedule,” I trust that what is meant to come through me will come through me at exactly the right time. This is true because I am open and willing. As I deepen into this trust, I can release my need to control things, feel “less than,” or be hard on myself when things don’t initially “go as planned.” This is available to all of us; it is not something reserved for me as a writer of being enough. 

If you didn’t read my last update on how I got to where I am today, I invite you to take a peek to better understand the many steps that unfolded perfectly in their own perfect time. And, be sure to sign up to receive future updates directly to your inbox along with early-bird opportunities to get your copy of Becoming Enough including an opportunity to receive a copy for free!

Releasing Our Attachments: Part 2

We've made it.

We have taken a stroll through the SOAR framework to give you a better understanding of just how powerful it can be to observe and accept what is and to start to release your attachments.

If you missed any of the last five videos, you can find them in my blog stream below.

Today, we explore the second part of the final stage of releasing our attachments as we look at what non-attachment is (again, not what you might think) and how we can practice more of it in our lives. 

This video offers a great visual for you to carry with you that you won't want to miss!

"By opening your heart to all of life—but clinging to none of it—you are participating in life fully." ~ Gay Hendricks

I appreciate you taking time to watch these videos and learn a bit more about my process and how I have gone from "never enough" to "always okay."

It is an ongoing practice that I continue to this day (and expect to for the rest of my life). If you are interested in taking this practice a step further, I invite you to take a look at my virtual course, Being Good with Being You, that is based on this SOAR framework. I would be honored to continue to be a part of your journey.

And, if you have enjoyed these videos and would like to receive more from me like this, be sure to sign up for my inspirational updates

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 2

And, we're back.

This whole idea of acceptance and accepting what is can be a real doozy. We started talking about it in the last video which you can watch here if you haven't already.

In today's video, we take a look at the second part of learning to accept what is. There are a lot of misconceptions of what it means to accept what is and in this video we explore how it's not just rolling over or giving up. 

So, what is it then? Watch the video to find out!

Acceptance does not lead to apathy; acceptance leads to peace.

We have now looked at the first two stages of the SOAR framework and will take a look at the final stage—releasing our attachments—in the next video.

See you then!

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 1

Acceptance. The word alone can bring up a bunch of resistance for most of us. 

Many of us have a bad taste in our mouths when we think of "accepting what is"—at least I did when I first started down this path.

Now, I feel quite differently about it, and maybe you do, too.

Either way, in today's video we explore the first part of this stage of learning to accept what is. Much like what we learned in the first two videos which you can find here and here, we will start with awareness.

Watch today's video to learn more about what it really means to accept what is and the first step to practicing it more often.

“Whenever you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Once you watch the video, I'd love to hear from you what the most difficult thing is for you when it comes to accepting what is. 

This continues to evolve for me as I imagine it does for you.

I'll see you in the next video where we explore the second part of this stage and answer the question, "So how exactly do I accept what is without just rolling over and giving up?" 

What It Means to Create

I’ve been in such a mode of creation lately—writing articles, doing interviews, recording free videos, hosting a live radio show. I suppose you could say I'm planting my seeds.

It is so clear to me just how cyclical or ever-changing things are as I observe what this feels like and reflect on other times where the exact opposite was the case. 

I share this because it can be all too easy for me (and I suspect maybe for you, too) to feel like I’m not contributing enough or creating enough or doing enough. Yes, the same theme … again. So, I start to notice when that isn’t true for myself, time and time again, developing the awareness that everything ebbs and flows, nothing lasts forever.

Ironically, amidst all of this creation, I was having a conversation with a dear friend of mine last week and noticing a belief I was having as she was sharing with me—how I’m not creating because I’m not earning money.

Since she is so in tune with her own inner wisdom, she asked me what it means to me to create.

This question hit me like a ton of bricks. 

I noticed that a part of me at that moment in time thought that in order to be a creator I have to be making money.

But once I got quiet and noticed that thought pass by, it became much clearer to me how I create in so many other ways: the content I create, the experiences I create, the connections I create, the feelings I create, the thoughts I create, the opportunities I create.

Perhaps you have a belief about what it means to create or be a creator in your life that is also keeping you stuck in thinking it has to look a certain way.

You don’t necessarily have to do anything with those beliefs other than notice them, bring awareness to them. Sometimes that is all it takes to then notice the other deeper beliefs that live within us, too.

So, as in honor of this creation that is all around me lately, I asked if I was to create yet one more thing this week for my Thoughtful Thursday, and the answer I received was, “no.” 

Instead, I want to share and celebrate with you one the other exciting things I am experimenting with and creating with the intention of being inspired (“in spirit”) and inspiring others.

My current passion project is the new iteration of my Being Inspired radio show. I have hosted a couple of episodes so far and it has been such an honor and incredible opportunity for me to serve and continue walking my talk. I am also excited for it to continue to evolve and invite other inspirational guests on the show in the coming months, so be sure to stay tuned.

If you haven’t yet had a chance, I invite you to check it out. I’m live every Tuesday at 7pm CT. Just go here to listen live or to any previous episode. Plus, you can follow me here so you can be kept up to date of all new episodes.

Plus, I desire to start using my Thoughtful Thursdays as an opportunity to answer YOUR questions—you know, those things you find yourself doubting or wondering about. So, if you have something you’d like to ask and have answered, send me an email with your question. It would be my honor to offer any insights and inspiration I have tailored specifically to you.  

Becoming the Observer: Part 2

And, we're back. 

Welcome to the second video in the 6-part video series that outlines the process I learned, practiced, and teach on how to go from "never enough" to "always okay." 

If you missed the first video, you can watch it here.

In today's video, we are going to explore the second part of becoming the observer which helps us to answer the question: "So, now that I know what my judgments are, how do I practice more non-judgmental awareness?"

Great question.

Watch today's video to learn more about what this means and just how to do it.

“Ask yourself if you are judging the moment or outcome as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and challenge yourself to accept it ‘as is’—neither good nor bad, right nor wrong—we never know the purpose of a moment until the moment has passed.” ~ Gay Hendricks

I'm curious how it goes for you. Once you watch the video, let me know in the comments below or over on my Facebook page!

See you in the next video where we will explore the second stage to the SOAR framework and learn how to accept what is. You won't want to miss this one!

Becoming the Observer: Part 1

During the month of April, I wanted to share the process that serves as my foundational framework for everything I have learned, practice, and teach. I was inspired to create this framework, which I call SOAR—Simply Observer, Accept, and Release—nearly two years ago while floating in my brother's pool in Florida. Not a bad place to be struck by the Divine! Of course, I didn't realize it then, but that spark of inspiration has guided everything I do and create for many years.

In this 6-part video series, I share an overview of what this process is and how to put it into practice in your own life. 

The first stage of the process is to simply observe and we start by doing this with our judgments. During this first stage, we are learning to move out of judgment and into more non-judgmental awareness. While it may seem like a simple concept, it takes time and practice—but that's okay, because it's being on the path that is important, not "getting somewhere." 

Watch this video to learn more about the first part to becoming the observer and learn a simple practice you can take with you into your daily life.

"A judgment is harmless if you immediately recognize it as such and don't completely believe in it anymore. Then, gradually, awareness dissolves the judgmental mind." - Eckhart Tolle

What judgments can you recognize as such so they no longer have the same power over you as they once did?

Next up: becoming the observer, part 2! This is where we start to answer the question, "so, how do I practice more non-judgmental awareness?" 

See you then!

 

How to Have More Abundance in Your Life

I don’t know about you but I can’t go more than a day without hearing something about abundance or manifestation or law of attraction.

And, I’ll be honest, I have had various reactions to and related with these concepts in different ways while on my journey.

For a long time, I thought that while everyone else had this whole manifestation thing down, it just wasn’t something that worked for me. I wasn’t seeing all of this abundance flowing into my life the way I thought it was flowing into everyone else’s. 

How many times do you go on Facebook or some other social media platform and see someone talking about how much money they “called in” or some incredible opportunity they received or all of these other incredible things that have manifested in their life?

It’s easy to feel like we don’t have enough sometimes.

Well, recently, I started to have a different relationship with abundance and what it means to manifest. Much of this can be attributed to the wisdom I continue to receive both from external sources as well as from within (which is available to all of us).

And that’s what I want to share with you in today’s video—what abundance means and how to experience more of it in your life (without having to know anything about manifestation or law of attraction).

“Abundance is the willingness to see and receive that which already exists all around you.” {Tweet that!}

Now, there are many views on abundance and I’d love to hear yours!

What does abundance mean to you?

Leave a comment below and let me know.

May you choose to see abundance all around you as we enter into a brand new month together!

The Light in me honors the Light in you,

A

One Word to Help You Receive More of What You Want

One Word to Help You Receive More of What You Want

My life has taken many twists and turns, always pursuing the next opportunity whether that’s trying out gymnastics, dance, theatre, corporate consulting, traveling to South America on a whim, quitting my job, moving to a new place.

More often than not, I am willing to see what else is possible or what other opportunity is ready to present itself to me.

I notice that I may have a bias towards saying, “Yes!” more often than “No.” 

And, still, I am learning so much about what it means to truly be willing and the positive effect it can have.

Using a simple mantra and making one small change has made a big difference in my life. Curious what it is? 

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The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

Now that it’s been over two years since I quit my full-time job, I’ve had lots of time to learn what it means to be my own boss. Through the creation of my own business, I’ve gotten to see common themes and patterns emerge that are incredible teachers to me.

Of course, it’s not just in my business that these lessons show up. 

I’m noticing how there are three important things I am consistently being asked to practice more and more often in my business and in my relationship with my partner and with myself.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the three things to practice whether you’re starting a business, in a relationship, or simply looking to live a more expansive and happier existence.

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Embrace or Resist: An Unceasing Decision

I sometimes catch myself worrying that I keep sharing the same reminders over and over again. Perhaps the content changes slightly but the message or lesson remains the same.

But then I realized that there is a reason this happens—because this is what it means to live with our ego’s constant attempts to “figure it out” or “finally get there.”

And part of this journey is embracing all those times when we don't (and surrendering to the reality that we never will time and time again). This is my ongoing practice: can I surrender even more or will I choose to dig my heels into the ground and hold on for dear life?

In today’s video, you’ll learn the question I continuously ask myself as I continue on this journey (with no attachment to the outcome).

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Curious How to Alleviate Some Pressure?

Even though I know (with a capital K) that there is nothing to “fix,” I still find myself rummaging through my toolbox more often than not looking for “just the thing” to relieve my current predicament. (It’s interesting to observe that I would call it a “predicament”…)

Now, depending on where we are in our journey or what this particular moment calls for, sometimes grabbing a tool is the best thing we can do.

But what I have started to notice is just how often I (and others I know) are all-too-quick to seek out the perfect tool to alter what the current moment presents.

And, I don't know about you, but this can feel like a lot of pressure sometimes.

In today’s video, you’ll learn what is sometimes even more powerful than searching for the latest gadget.

“Sometimes we need to use tools and sometimes we just need to give ourselves permission to BE ourselves.” {Tweet that!}

Once you’ve had a chance to watch the video, I’d love to hear from you.

What do you think about this approach?

Leave a comment below and let me know!

May your week be filled with love, compassion, and gentle curiosity,

A

Freedom Isn't Just For the Birds (or Nomads)

A few months ago I explored this idea of freedom and what it means to me.

It’s incredible just how much this perspective continues to support me in a way that feels so true and so expansive. Yet, I’m also being reminded that one does not need to sell all of their belongings (though a certain amount of downsizing can help facilitate a sense of freedom) or travel the world to experience freedom and limitless possibilities. 

We can all experience freedom in each and every moment no matter what our circumstances—it’s simply a practice of seeing life through a different lens.

So while I chose to free myself from my possessions and home, I am well aware that this is not the source of my freedom.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 3 things we all can do to experience more freedom no matter where we are or what our situation might be.

Freedom isn’t found in a suitcase or lack of possessions; it's found in the choices we have in each and every moment. {Tweet that!}

Once you’ve had a chance to watch the video, I’d love to hear from you.

What does freedom mean to you? How can you experience more freedom and limitless possibilities right now in your life as it is?

Leave a comment below and let me know! 

I’d love to hear from you because while I am learning that it is part of my constitution to be a wanderer and an adventurer and I thrive with change, it is definitely not for everyone; and, though it offers me much freedom, it is certainly not the only way to experience more freedom and possibilities in our lives.

Sending love from the road,

A

P.S. Want to learn more about how I handle the fear and uncertainty that comes up living on the road (and that comes up even when you’re not living out of a suitcase)? I’d love to have you join me for this month's Being Inspired Seminar Series on Tuesday, January 26 at 7pm ET. Be sure to register here to receive each month's call in details, calendar invites, and reminders. I will be hosting a new topic on the last Tuesday of each month at 7pm ET and would love to have you join me! (Recordings of each call will be sent out to those who have registered so no worries if you can't join me live!)

How I Live with Uncertainty (and How You Can, Too!)

I notice just how helpful and reassuring it is to hear stories from others who exemplify to me what it means to live an existence based on TRUST and “going with the flow.”

No matter how often I find myself in a position of uncertainty or change, it never seems to surprise me just how unfamiliar it can sometimes feel and just how valuable it is to hear others’ experiences that reaffirm for me once again just how possible it is to go through life without needing to control every little thing.

So that’s what I want to offer to you today. My story. My experience. Yet another one to add to your cauldron of examples how it IS possible to live an existence without fear, without stress, without anxiety.

My hope is that the more we share these examples, the more courage others can have when stepping out into the unknown for themselves.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 4 things I do to feel less anxious and more confident amidst uncertainty (and how you can, too!).

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My 3 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2015: Part 2

In last week’s Thoughtful Thursday, I talked about having set some soulful intentions for 2015 and reflecting on what they were and just how they came to fruition. (I’d love to have you join me for this month’s FREE seminar on Setting Soulful Intentions to learn how to set your own!)

One of those intentions was to COMMIT and experience more FOCUS in my life. Through reflection, I noticed a pattern of mine when it comes to committing, what was ultimately at the root of it, and how I’ve practiced shifting that so I can be “all in."

In today’s video, I share the second of my three biggest lessons and how it showed up for me throughout the year.

If you’re anything like me and find yourself going back and forth a lot or feeling a flip in your stomach at the thought of committing to just one thing, I invite you to watch today’s video where I’ll share one simple thing for you to do if this comes up for you again in the new year.

Learning how to be “both feet in” was a tremendous lesson for me—in my relationship, in my career, in life.

I cannot count how many times I have changed course or backed out or given up out of fear of either getting hurt or failing in some way. Basically, I was afraid if either of those things happened, I wouldn’t be okay.

For so many of us, it can be all too easy to put on even more armor or pull away when we start to notice any doubt or uncertainty.

When we love more fearlessly we acknowledge the Truth that we are always okay no matter what. {Tweet that!

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you practice loving more fearlessly? Post your tips and tricks in the comments below so we can all continue to open ourselves more fully and willingly and experience what it feels like to be “both feet in." 

P.S. Those of you who join me for my Setting Soulful Intentions Seminar will receive a special discount to my upcoming Being Good with Being You online program. This is in addition to the early bird pricing for anyone who enrolls by the end of 2015. This is a great gift to give yourself as you kick off a new year. Learn more here!

P.P.S. I truly wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year filled with peace, love, and joy as you stay true to what truly matters to you 😃 xox 

My New Approach to Life (and Why It’s worth Trying)

Have you ever had one of those days (or weeks) when you didn’t think you could feel any worse? When those old hurts and stories and patterns started to emerge? 

I had one of those just the other day. 

It sucked. I was angry, sad, resentful, and sick to my stomach. But, there was something different about this experience that I hadn’t been aware of before.

In today’s video, I examine what was so different about my recent experience and how it is offering me a whole new perspective on life and how to approach it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself unsure of what to do during times like this, I invite you to watch today’s video where I share my reflections that could be just the thing you’ve been looking for.

For so many of us, we do a lot of inner work so as to avoid feeling certain ways or experiencing certain parts of ourselves (at least, that was the case for me). 

What I’m learning is that the journey isn’t about avoiding but rather embracing all parts of ourselves (even the parts that feel painful or “bad” or undesirable). And for those of us on this spiritual quest, it can be all too easy to think we’re supposed to be all “light” when we’re here to experience the whole range. This is where true experience and healing can occur.

It’s not about getting to a place of all "light” and no “shadow” but rather no longer judging any of it as good or bad. {Tweet that!}

In order to be able to ask the questions that matter and uncover the Truth that lies within us, we first need to accept and embrace ALL of it. So the next time you think that you shouldn’t be feeling this way or you don’t want to experience this pain, I invite you to feel it all and embrace the full range of emotions of what it means to be alive and notice that in so doing you are, always have been, and always will be okay.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What does this bring up for you or what insights do you have to share? Post your learnings and reflections in the comments below so we can all learn from one another on this incredible journey.

Do you know someone who could benefit from living a fuller existence? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

With love & gratitude,

xoxo

How to Use Your Tools & Stay True to You

As a student of life, a self-help junkie, and a soulful inquirer, I’ve read a lot of books, taken a lot of courses, watched a lot of videos, and listened to a lot of podcasts. In the course of this, I’ve acquired hundreds of tools and pieces of advice—everything from meditation (in all its forms) to drinking hot lemon water to keeping a gratitude journal to reciting mantras to inquiring my thoughts to visualizations to doing yoga to many, many more.

And as an over-achieving student and dedicated disciple, I take these tools and teachings to heart and do my best to use each one and get (what a dear friend and mentor Cora Poage recently said) an A+ on my spiritual report card.

Perhaps you can relate.

It seems like everywhere we turn nowadays there is a new tool or technique or piece of advice that someone is offering us. For me, this can sometimes feel overwhelming, discouraging, or even distract me from the very thing I am trying to experience (such as relief, peace, or ease).

In today’s video, I share a fresh perspective to help bring us back to our center and experience that which we seek.

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How to Take Action While Accepting What Is

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I can remember it as if it were yesterday.

My face scrunched up that just screamed “judgment” all over it. I sat in my studio apartment and asked myself, “Now how can I possibly keep moving forward if I settle for accepting what is? Isn’t that just being passive? Won’t I become even more apathetic than I already am sometimes?"

These questions came fast and furious across my mind’s eye.

All I desired was to be at peace and to learn some common principles to experiencing joy and, yet, these questions seemed relentless. I figured there was no hope.

Well, luckily for me, I didn’t give up. I lived in the questions. I continued to inquire and seek answers from my own experience and based on the experiences of others.

Recently, in my Being Good with Being You program, these questions came up again from some of my participants so I figured it was time to share what I’ve learned with a wider audience.

In today’s blog, I share what exactly I learned when it came to resolving these questions and how I came to terms with no longer believing that being at peace is mutually exclusive from taking action.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself asking one (or all) of these questions at least once, I invite you to read today’s blog and see for yourself how these two desires can live in harmony.

Here are a few of the questions that cropped up for me and for those I’ve been working with along with what I’ve discovered about each.

Isn’t observing really passive?

When we first start becoming a non-judgmental observer (the first step to truly loving what we have and experiencing peace in each moment), it can feel as if we aren’t doing much of anything. And sometimes we even wonder if we will ever take any form of action if we are simply observing.

My perspective (and experience that backs this up) is that observing is quite active. It is a conscientious action made in each moment.

It is by bringing awareness to something that we can shift it. Simply by bringing awareness to something changes it immediately. For instance, when we watch our breath or notice our walk or observe a performance or are observed at work, it changes that thing simply by being observed.

The knowledge of observation changes things and bringing awareness to our thoughts, feelings, or situation can have the exact same effect.

When we are aware in a non-judgmental way, we start to explore our creative possibilities along with our limitations. This isn’t a passive practice. When we are aware of ourselves without placing judgment on ourselves, we can maneuver more flexibly through life.

Don’t we need judgment to propel us forward and motivate us to improve?

This is also a super common belief and one that I definitely had and still catch myself noticing every once in a while.

When we are in judgment, what we do comes from a place of fear or hate. No good can come from that place, no matter how much action is taking place.

When we are in awareness, acceptance, and deep gratitude, what we do comes from a place of love. And, any forward movement we make from this place is in service of those involved.

Thing is, we don’t need to live in judgment to choose a life that is joyful, healthy, and in service to others.

When we are in pure awareness and acceptance, it becomes so much clearer what we want to pursue or how we want to serve, or how we desire to treat our bodies and those around us.

I finally realized that I don’t need judgment to eat better or get more sleep or pursue my passions. I now practice observing what is happening, accepting what is, and then make a decision in each moment that would serve me most.

How can we accept what is and not get lazy or apathetic?

This is a big one. I totally get this. I resisted accepting what is for quite some time. This manifested itself as stress, bi-polar outbursts, and experiencing life as a series of extreme highs and lows.

It was almost as if my ego was saying, “If I accept what is, how will I ever be happy?” or “If I accept what is, how will I ever get anything done?"

Now, I invite you to take a moment and really ponder these questions and ask yourself, is this true? Is it true that by accepting this moment, you won’t do anything? Is it true that happiness only comes by avoiding or resisting this moment?

When we accept what is, we are creating distance from our ego and living in alignment with the reality of the moment. We are honoring the present and seeing things for how they truly are, not how we wish they were.

Acceptance involves acknowledgment of the situation/person/feeling/etc. Acceptance isn’t a “stuffing down” of the situation or ignoring it.

Acceptance does not lead to apathy; acceptance leads to aligned and adaptive action. {Tweet that!}

Just because I accept that I lost my job doesn’t mean I don’t take action and find more work. Just because I accept that I got into a car accident doesn’t mean I don’t take action and fix my car.

Once I accepted that I have a tendency to be perfectionistic, I was able to be more mindful of those moments and choose to respond differently, if necessary. The acceptance didn’t keep me stuck as a perfectionist—actually, quite the opposite thing happened. By accepting those qualities of mine, I was able to get to a place of being less identified with them and see them for what they are non-judgmentally and then make new choices in each moment by responding to what is rather than reacting based on my egoic patterns.

As Eckhart Tolle says, “Egoic patterns, even long-standing ones, sometimes dissolve almost miraculously when you don’t oppose them internally."

Acceptance is the crux from which everything else flows. Once we begin to accept what is, we can let go of the suffering and anything that is no longer serving us, and we can take action in a more clear and aligned way.

Now it's your turn! Let us know how you’ve learned to practice both acceptance and action simultaneously. Leave your thoughts in the comments below this blog.

If you happen to know someone who could benefit from hearing these ideas and feeling more at ease about practicing acceptance and still taking action, please share this with them.

With endless appreciation,

P.S. If you’re curious how to practice acceptance and action at the same time, go ahead and grab a complimentary, no-pressure consultation with me where we can see if my Ready to SOAR coaching program is a good fit for you.

How to Overcome Failure

I tend to pay attention when the same thing appears over and over again in my world. Lately, this has been creativity and failure.

So I figured why not create this week’s Thoughtful Thursday on this very thing?

Just the other day, I listened to Elizabeth Gilbert’s podcast, Magic Lessons, with Brene Brown. Wow! 30-minutes jam-packed with nuggets of wisdom and inspiration. (Be sure to check it out if you haven't already done so.)

As I listened to them chat, it dawned on me that the same reason we give up when we experience failure (or feel as if we aren’t good enough) is the same reason many of us don’t experience the life we desire. They were totally speaking my language!

For so many of us, failure is a bad word.

This sure was true for me most of my life! And, if we have the courage to encounter it, we often use it as a reason to stop what it is we are doing.

In today's video, I address this fear and how to overcome it.

If you’re anything like me and have found that failure or shame has kept you from creating something in the world (or trying again), you won’t want to miss today’s video.

Failure is an opportunity to notice how we are—and always will be—okay. {Tweet that!}

The next time you face a little failure, be more empathetic, notice how you are still okay, and then ask yourself if you are willing to do it again.

Now it’s your turn! What is your favorite tool or technique to overcome failure? Share in the comments below so we can learn from one another and have more people who are willing to see that failure is offering us an opportunity rather than a threat.

If you know anyone who could benefit from hearing these inspirational messages about overcoming failure, please be sure to share this with them.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. Keep an eye out (or be sure to sign up) for some upcoming exciting announcements! I’m feeling into this season of change and will be offering up some new ways to deliver value and expanding some of what I already do. 

Want to Know How I Turned My Perfectionism on Its Head?


You know that moment when you hit “send” and then think “oh, crap"? 

This happened to me (twice!) just the other week.

I realized the error but it was too late. It was gone. The internet had magically delivered it. There was no turning back.

I was starting the pre-launch of my virtual program, Being Good with Being You, and was so excited to share some free videos with my incredible audience (aka you).

At the same time, I decided to switch my blogging platform to my website and change how my blogs are sent to my list of loyal readers (again, you).

Right in the midst of my pre-launch, the magical mystical incomprehensible internet decided to send the same blog post to my list twice in the same day, only minutes apart.

My gut sank. Oh, no. Here I am, already sending out a number of emails and videos to my audience with the intent to offer value and inspiration and now I’m inundating their inbox with a duplicate message!

I took a moment to think about what I ought to do. The perfectionist in me was screaming, “Fix it!! Make it right!! Send another message explaining what happened so all can be forgiven!!"

Then, another voice (which happened to be the voice of a dear friend of mine) said, “It’s fine. Better not to send another email at this point."

Finally, another voice (this one coming from deep within) said, “It is what it is. Just surrender."

Just to be sure that I truly knew how to surrender my perfectionism and test my ability to stay calm through it all, the universe (or the internet, whichever you prefer to call it) decided to test me one more time just a few days later.

This time, an email got sent out with a glaring error in it. It wasn’t just a word that was misspelled or a comma out of place. It was an entire copy-and-paste-gone-wrong scenario.

Again, my heart sank and the perfectionist was ready to fight. Luckily, this time, my deeper voice was quicker on the scene and immediately reminded me to take a few breaths and surrender. It is what it is.

A major theme in my work lately has been about perfectionism and seeing how it’s cropped up in my own life time and time again, and just how limiting it can be. (If you haven’t done so already, be sure to download my free ebook on this very topic.)

With all of this introspection, I started to judge the word “perfect” as destructive and avoided using it as often as possible. I stood firmly that perfectionism only limits us and is something that needs to be overcome.

The reason I have taken this stance so vigorously in the past is because I have seen and personally experienced the negative impacts from striving for perfection. I know I’m not the only one who sees or experiences this. It bombards our society, our marketing, our bookshelves, our conversations, you name it.

Recently, I finished reading Michael Singer’s book, “The Surrender Experiment,” and he uses the word “perfect” quite a bit. At first, I was put off by it and resisted the use of that word. Then, I paused and noticed how he was using it. It wasn’t in the way many of us might think.

A few days later I was doing my Morning Pages and it struck me, “What if my definition of perfectionism no longer serves me? What if there is another definition?"

What if “perfect” doesn’t mean something going exactly the way I want it to and living up to my standards and, rather, perfectionism is when something goes exactly as it’s meant to?

This new perspective allows me to no longer have the same recoiling reaction I’ve had to the word “perfect.” I now see how everything that occurs when we release our own expectations, limitations, or control is just that. 

When we release our grip on our own perfectionism, we are free to experience the perfectionism of the universe. {Tweet that!}

For an instant gratification society, this may not be the most ideal working definition because it might take some time to see how a moment or an event is indeed perfect. This requires trust that everything is exactly as it’s meant to be. But it is well worth it. The freedom and expansion that comes from this belief is transformative.

As I think back on my two recent email “blunders,” I now see how they provided me with a perfect opportunity to surrender and share this message with others.

Had those emails not gone out with “imperfections,” inspiration for this message would not have been received, and this post would not have been written and shared.

Now it's your turn! What is your working definition of “perfect”? I’d love to hear what you think so please take a moment to share your thoughts in the comments below.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. I felt a strong calling to switch it up this week and publish a written blog instead of a video. I’d love to hear what you think and if you happen to prefer one over the other! Leave it in the comments below or share it on my Facebook page