Releasing Our Attachments: Part 2

We've made it.

We have taken a stroll through the SOAR framework to give you a better understanding of just how powerful it can be to observe and accept what is and to start to release your attachments.

If you missed any of the last five videos, you can find them in my blog stream below.

Today, we explore the second part of the final stage of releasing our attachments as we look at what non-attachment is (again, not what you might think) and how we can practice more of it in our lives. 

This video offers a great visual for you to carry with you that you won't want to miss!

"By opening your heart to all of life—but clinging to none of it—you are participating in life fully." ~ Gay Hendricks

I appreciate you taking time to watch these videos and learn a bit more about my process and how I have gone from "never enough" to "always okay."

It is an ongoing practice that I continue to this day (and expect to for the rest of my life). If you are interested in taking this practice a step further, I invite you to take a look at my virtual course, Being Good with Being You, that is based on this SOAR framework. I would be honored to continue to be a part of your journey.

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Releasing Our Attachments: Part 1

So, now that we've looked at how to observe more non-judgmentally and start to accept what is without believing that means we need to just give up or stop trying, it's time to put all this practice to use as we enter the third stage of going from "never enough" to "always okay." 

Today, we start looking at the first part of releasing our attachments. In this video, I'll teach you the simplest and most powerful to start releasing anything you might be attached to—it's almost so simple it's silly.

But, I can attest that it works. Once I started putting this into practice, my clinging to outcomes and beliefs and expectations and thinking things would always stay the same loosened dramatically, and I experienced more freedom and lightness in my life.

If you're curious what this simple practice is, watch today's video.

"'I am the awareness that is aware that there is attachment.' That's the beginning of the transformation of consciousness." ~ Eckhart Tolle

Just one more video to go where we will explore part two of releasing our attachments and what this might look like in your life.

Until next time ...

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 2

And, we're back.

This whole idea of acceptance and accepting what is can be a real doozy. We started talking about it in the last video which you can watch here if you haven't already.

In today's video, we take a look at the second part of learning to accept what is. There are a lot of misconceptions of what it means to accept what is and in this video we explore how it's not just rolling over or giving up. 

So, what is it then? Watch the video to find out!

Acceptance does not lead to apathy; acceptance leads to peace.

We have now looked at the first two stages of the SOAR framework and will take a look at the final stage—releasing our attachments—in the next video.

See you then!

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 1

Acceptance. The word alone can bring up a bunch of resistance for most of us. 

Many of us have a bad taste in our mouths when we think of "accepting what is"—at least I did when I first started down this path.

Now, I feel quite differently about it, and maybe you do, too.

Either way, in today's video we explore the first part of this stage of learning to accept what is. Much like what we learned in the first two videos which you can find here and here, we will start with awareness.

Watch today's video to learn more about what it really means to accept what is and the first step to practicing it more often.

“Whenever you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Once you watch the video, I'd love to hear from you what the most difficult thing is for you when it comes to accepting what is. 

This continues to evolve for me as I imagine it does for you.

I'll see you in the next video where we explore the second part of this stage and answer the question, "So how exactly do I accept what is without just rolling over and giving up?" 

What It Means to Create

I’ve been in such a mode of creation lately—writing articles, doing interviews, recording free videos, hosting a live radio show. I suppose you could say I'm planting my seeds.

It is so clear to me just how cyclical or ever-changing things are as I observe what this feels like and reflect on other times where the exact opposite was the case. 

I share this because it can be all too easy for me (and I suspect maybe for you, too) to feel like I’m not contributing enough or creating enough or doing enough. Yes, the same theme … again. So, I start to notice when that isn’t true for myself, time and time again, developing the awareness that everything ebbs and flows, nothing lasts forever.

Ironically, amidst all of this creation, I was having a conversation with a dear friend of mine last week and noticing a belief I was having as she was sharing with me—how I’m not creating because I’m not earning money.

Since she is so in tune with her own inner wisdom, she asked me what it means to me to create.

This question hit me like a ton of bricks. 

I noticed that a part of me at that moment in time thought that in order to be a creator I have to be making money.

But once I got quiet and noticed that thought pass by, it became much clearer to me how I create in so many other ways: the content I create, the experiences I create, the connections I create, the feelings I create, the thoughts I create, the opportunities I create.

Perhaps you have a belief about what it means to create or be a creator in your life that is also keeping you stuck in thinking it has to look a certain way.

You don’t necessarily have to do anything with those beliefs other than notice them, bring awareness to them. Sometimes that is all it takes to then notice the other deeper beliefs that live within us, too.

So, as in honor of this creation that is all around me lately, I asked if I was to create yet one more thing this week for my Thoughtful Thursday, and the answer I received was, “no.” 

Instead, I want to share and celebrate with you one the other exciting things I am experimenting with and creating with the intention of being inspired (“in spirit”) and inspiring others.

My current passion project is the new iteration of my Being Inspired radio show. I have hosted a couple of episodes so far and it has been such an honor and incredible opportunity for me to serve and continue walking my talk. I am also excited for it to continue to evolve and invite other inspirational guests on the show in the coming months, so be sure to stay tuned.

If you haven’t yet had a chance, I invite you to check it out. I’m live every Tuesday at 7pm CT. Just go here to listen live or to any previous episode. Plus, you can follow me here so you can be kept up to date of all new episodes.

Plus, I desire to start using my Thoughtful Thursdays as an opportunity to answer YOUR questions—you know, those things you find yourself doubting or wondering about. So, if you have something you’d like to ask and have answered, send me an email with your question. It would be my honor to offer any insights and inspiration I have tailored specifically to you.  

Becoming the Observer: Part 2

And, we're back. 

Welcome to the second video in the 6-part video series that outlines the process I learned, practiced, and teach on how to go from "never enough" to "always okay." 

If you missed the first video, you can watch it here.

In today's video, we are going to explore the second part of becoming the observer which helps us to answer the question: "So, now that I know what my judgments are, how do I practice more non-judgmental awareness?"

Great question.

Watch today's video to learn more about what this means and just how to do it.

“Ask yourself if you are judging the moment or outcome as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and challenge yourself to accept it ‘as is’—neither good nor bad, right nor wrong—we never know the purpose of a moment until the moment has passed.” ~ Gay Hendricks

I'm curious how it goes for you. Once you watch the video, let me know in the comments below or over on my Facebook page!

See you in the next video where we will explore the second stage to the SOAR framework and learn how to accept what is. You won't want to miss this one!

Becoming the Observer: Part 1

During the month of April, I wanted to share the process that serves as my foundational framework for everything I have learned, practice, and teach. I was inspired to create this framework, which I call SOAR—Simply Observer, Accept, and Release—nearly two years ago while floating in my brother's pool in Florida. Not a bad place to be struck by the Divine! Of course, I didn't realize it then, but that spark of inspiration has guided everything I do and create for many years.

In this 6-part video series, I share an overview of what this process is and how to put it into practice in your own life. 

The first stage of the process is to simply observe and we start by doing this with our judgments. During this first stage, we are learning to move out of judgment and into more non-judgmental awareness. While it may seem like a simple concept, it takes time and practice—but that's okay, because it's being on the path that is important, not "getting somewhere." 

Watch this video to learn more about the first part to becoming the observer and learn a simple practice you can take with you into your daily life.

"A judgment is harmless if you immediately recognize it as such and don't completely believe in it anymore. Then, gradually, awareness dissolves the judgmental mind." - Eckhart Tolle

What judgments can you recognize as such so they no longer have the same power over you as they once did?

Next up: becoming the observer, part 2! This is where we start to answer the question, "so, how do I practice more non-judgmental awareness?" 

See you then!

 

How to Have More Abundance in Your Life

I don’t know about you but I can’t go more than a day without hearing something about abundance or manifestation or law of attraction.

And, I’ll be honest, I have had various reactions to and related with these concepts in different ways while on my journey.

For a long time, I thought that while everyone else had this whole manifestation thing down, it just wasn’t something that worked for me. I wasn’t seeing all of this abundance flowing into my life the way I thought it was flowing into everyone else’s. 

How many times do you go on Facebook or some other social media platform and see someone talking about how much money they “called in” or some incredible opportunity they received or all of these other incredible things that have manifested in their life?

It’s easy to feel like we don’t have enough sometimes.

Well, recently, I started to have a different relationship with abundance and what it means to manifest. Much of this can be attributed to the wisdom I continue to receive both from external sources as well as from within (which is available to all of us).

And that’s what I want to share with you in today’s video—what abundance means and how to experience more of it in your life (without having to know anything about manifestation or law of attraction).

“Abundance is the willingness to see and receive that which already exists all around you.” {Tweet that!}

Now, there are many views on abundance and I’d love to hear yours!

What does abundance mean to you?

Leave a comment below and let me know.

May you choose to see abundance all around you as we enter into a brand new month together!

The Light in me honors the Light in you,

A

The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

Now that it’s been over two years since I quit my full-time job, I’ve had lots of time to learn what it means to be my own boss. Through the creation of my own business, I’ve gotten to see common themes and patterns emerge that are incredible teachers to me.

Of course, it’s not just in my business that these lessons show up. 

I’m noticing how there are three important things I am consistently being asked to practice more and more often in my business and in my relationship with my partner and with myself.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the three things to practice whether you’re starting a business, in a relationship, or simply looking to live a more expansive and happier existence.

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Embrace or Resist: An Unceasing Decision

I sometimes catch myself worrying that I keep sharing the same reminders over and over again. Perhaps the content changes slightly but the message or lesson remains the same.

But then I realized that there is a reason this happens—because this is what it means to live with our ego’s constant attempts to “figure it out” or “finally get there.”

And part of this journey is embracing all those times when we don't (and surrendering to the reality that we never will time and time again). This is my ongoing practice: can I surrender even more or will I choose to dig my heels into the ground and hold on for dear life?

In today’s video, you’ll learn the question I continuously ask myself as I continue on this journey (with no attachment to the outcome).

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Curious How to Alleviate Some Pressure?

Even though I know (with a capital K) that there is nothing to “fix,” I still find myself rummaging through my toolbox more often than not looking for “just the thing” to relieve my current predicament. (It’s interesting to observe that I would call it a “predicament”…)

Now, depending on where we are in our journey or what this particular moment calls for, sometimes grabbing a tool is the best thing we can do.

But what I have started to notice is just how often I (and others I know) are all-too-quick to seek out the perfect tool to alter what the current moment presents.

And, I don't know about you, but this can feel like a lot of pressure sometimes.

In today’s video, you’ll learn what is sometimes even more powerful than searching for the latest gadget.

“Sometimes we need to use tools and sometimes we just need to give ourselves permission to BE ourselves.” {Tweet that!}

Once you’ve had a chance to watch the video, I’d love to hear from you.

What do you think about this approach?

Leave a comment below and let me know!

May your week be filled with love, compassion, and gentle curiosity,

A

How to Reveal What It Is You're Hiding From

I find that I am continuously peeling back the layers to reveal more and more of my deeper, truer self and this happened once again on quite a deep, existential level as I found myself laying in shavasana just the other day.

For many of us, we may find ourselves wrestling with an existential question of “do I matter?” and what occurred to me after my revelation just the other day is that much of our mission here on earth, should we choose to accept it, is to peel back the various layers and ways we have created to help us feel like we do.

And even though what revealed itself to me could be perceived as kind of heavy or dark, it didn’t feel that way at all. I think that is partly because I’ve been learning that this stuff doesn’t need to be so serious and I can have more fun with the discoveries I make along the way. And, I think partly it’s because I’ve already been peeling back these layers bit by bit so it isn’t as scary or alarming as it might have been before.

My intention for sharing this with you is so you can witness the power this simple question can have when I want to call myself out a little and gently reveal where I tend to hide or avoid things. Plus, this revelation may spark something within you or serve as something to chew on for a few days.

In today’s video, you’ll learn what this question is and how you can use it to reveal your own truths.

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Freedom Isn't Just For the Birds (or Nomads)

A few months ago I explored this idea of freedom and what it means to me.

It’s incredible just how much this perspective continues to support me in a way that feels so true and so expansive. Yet, I’m also being reminded that one does not need to sell all of their belongings (though a certain amount of downsizing can help facilitate a sense of freedom) or travel the world to experience freedom and limitless possibilities. 

We can all experience freedom in each and every moment no matter what our circumstances—it’s simply a practice of seeing life through a different lens.

So while I chose to free myself from my possessions and home, I am well aware that this is not the source of my freedom.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 3 things we all can do to experience more freedom no matter where we are or what our situation might be.

Freedom isn’t found in a suitcase or lack of possessions; it's found in the choices we have in each and every moment. {Tweet that!}

Once you’ve had a chance to watch the video, I’d love to hear from you.

What does freedom mean to you? How can you experience more freedom and limitless possibilities right now in your life as it is?

Leave a comment below and let me know! 

I’d love to hear from you because while I am learning that it is part of my constitution to be a wanderer and an adventurer and I thrive with change, it is definitely not for everyone; and, though it offers me much freedom, it is certainly not the only way to experience more freedom and possibilities in our lives.

Sending love from the road,

A

P.S. Want to learn more about how I handle the fear and uncertainty that comes up living on the road (and that comes up even when you’re not living out of a suitcase)? I’d love to have you join me for this month's Being Inspired Seminar Series on Tuesday, January 26 at 7pm ET. Be sure to register here to receive each month's call in details, calendar invites, and reminders. I will be hosting a new topic on the last Tuesday of each month at 7pm ET and would love to have you join me! (Recordings of each call will be sent out to those who have registered so no worries if you can't join me live!)

How I Live with Uncertainty (and How You Can, Too!)

I notice just how helpful and reassuring it is to hear stories from others who exemplify to me what it means to live an existence based on TRUST and “going with the flow.”

No matter how often I find myself in a position of uncertainty or change, it never seems to surprise me just how unfamiliar it can sometimes feel and just how valuable it is to hear others’ experiences that reaffirm for me once again just how possible it is to go through life without needing to control every little thing.

So that’s what I want to offer to you today. My story. My experience. Yet another one to add to your cauldron of examples how it IS possible to live an existence without fear, without stress, without anxiety.

My hope is that the more we share these examples, the more courage others can have when stepping out into the unknown for themselves.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 4 things I do to feel less anxious and more confident amidst uncertainty (and how you can, too!).

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How to Uncover Mind-Blowing Truths

The past couple of weeks have been chock-full of deep deep lessons. A lot is coming up for me and I can tell I’m working through a lot of old stories and beliefs. And in the process, I’m uncovering a few things that are kind of surprising.

In today’s video, I share with you just what this deep Truth is and how exactly I went about uncovering it so that you can try the same thing yourself.

If you’re anything like me and enjoy looking for the lessons in everything (or would like to do this more often), I invite you to watch today’s video and learn a process you can use to do just that. (Who knows, it might just blow your mind!)

I’m starting to notice just how many layers there are to this journey of revealing one’s wholeness. And I’m still somewhat surprised what I discover underneath each new layer.

The cool thing is that it gets more encouraging and inspirational the further I go.

It’s like digging for buried treasure and, while your arms might start getting tired the further you dig and you may even start to feel a bit impatient, sooner or later you strike something hard and you are encouraged to keep digging because you know you’re about to reveal something magnificent.

Part of what I discovered as I started digging for this treasure is what I’ve been avoiding—which completely shocked me. I shared in another video a simple question that we can all use to reduce guilt and increase clarity and it involves exploring what we are avoiding and how to better assess why we’re avoiding something to begin with.

I also discovered (again) just how important it is to feel something fully and completely, which I talked about in this previous video.

As I continue digging, I become more and more clear that there is nothing to “fix” but there are so many lessons to learn and if we can remain open and curious to them, it’s incredible just how much more of our wholeness we can uncover.

Looking for the lesson doesn’t imply something is broken; it implies there's something to be revealed. {Tweet that!}

In order to reach the buried treasure, we must be willing to sweat and maybe even get a little dirty. So the next time you sense there’s a deeper Truth or part of yourself just waiting to be revealed, take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and start digging. Trust me, it’s worth it.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What mind-blowing awareness did you have recently? Share your treasure in the comments below so we can all deepen into our own Truth through someone else’s experience.

Do you know someone who could benefit from learning how to uncover more of their own treasure that lies within? If so, please pass this along to them and be part of the ripple effect.

With profound appreciation,

A

P.S. If you want to dig for even more gold, be sure to join me for my Being You Holiday Challenge! Together we will use the process I discovered is key to going from “never enough” to “always okay” and serves as the framework for my signature training program, Being Good with Being You. Did I mention it’s free to join? I’d love to have you there! 

My New Approach to Life (and Why It’s worth Trying)

Have you ever had one of those days (or weeks) when you didn’t think you could feel any worse? When those old hurts and stories and patterns started to emerge? 

I had one of those just the other day. 

It sucked. I was angry, sad, resentful, and sick to my stomach. But, there was something different about this experience that I hadn’t been aware of before.

In today’s video, I examine what was so different about my recent experience and how it is offering me a whole new perspective on life and how to approach it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself unsure of what to do during times like this, I invite you to watch today’s video where I share my reflections that could be just the thing you’ve been looking for.

For so many of us, we do a lot of inner work so as to avoid feeling certain ways or experiencing certain parts of ourselves (at least, that was the case for me). 

What I’m learning is that the journey isn’t about avoiding but rather embracing all parts of ourselves (even the parts that feel painful or “bad” or undesirable). And for those of us on this spiritual quest, it can be all too easy to think we’re supposed to be all “light” when we’re here to experience the whole range. This is where true experience and healing can occur.

It’s not about getting to a place of all "light” and no “shadow” but rather no longer judging any of it as good or bad. {Tweet that!}

In order to be able to ask the questions that matter and uncover the Truth that lies within us, we first need to accept and embrace ALL of it. So the next time you think that you shouldn’t be feeling this way or you don’t want to experience this pain, I invite you to feel it all and embrace the full range of emotions of what it means to be alive and notice that in so doing you are, always have been, and always will be okay.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What does this bring up for you or what insights do you have to share? Post your learnings and reflections in the comments below so we can all learn from one another on this incredible journey.

Do you know someone who could benefit from living a fuller existence? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

With love & gratitude,

xoxo

Life-Altering Lessons Learned from the Sacred Valley

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Many of us are on a journey. For some of us, it is a physical journey traveling or nomad-ing around. For others, it is an inner, spiritual journey. And for some of you like me, it’s a combination of both.

As some of you may know, I am in the beautiful and sacred land of Peru where I am spending three weeks traveling and participating in an Embodying Love retreat (hosted by the incredible Cora Poage and Ginny Muir) and exploring the mystical and magical parts of this exquisite country (along with my inner world). And, what a powerful trip it has been!

Not only have I been blown away by the beauty of the land and the people of this country, but I have also been blown away by the lessons that this trip has in store for me.

In today’s blog, I share the top lessons this land has taught me during my time here on retreat as I reconnected with the Earth, my Inner Light, and experienced Divine Love on a cellular level.

If you’re anything like me and have ever found yourself wondering if you’re deserving of receiving this kind of love, I invite you to read today’s blog and be reminded of just how deserving you are and what exactly it takes (and doesn’t take).

As a lifelong member and current President of the Soulful Inquirer Club, I have gathered a lot of lessons and timeless reminders over the years. I’m always on the lookout for a new awareness or a-ha moment as I continue to reveal more and more of my True self.

It never fails to surprise me that many of the lessons we learn aren’t new lessons but rather ageless reminders that we’ve heard many, many times before. And so it was the case as I uncovered even more of my True self in the depths of the Sacred Valley in Peru. The lessons I learned here weren’t necessarily new but they resonated with me on a whole new level.

The thing I want to share most with you is that we are all deserving of Divine Love (with a capital “L”).

I was reminded on a deep, deep level that while there is a price of admission, there is one thing we do not need to buy into which totally blew my mind (and might blow yours, too).

So, what’s the cost (and what’s the belief we can give up once and for all)?

We do not need to suffer.

Yep, that’s right.

I know it might go against nearly every grain in your body—at least it did (does) mine. 

It became crystal clear to me just how undeserving I have felt of Divine Love because I haven’t suffered enough. I can recall all the times I told myself (and others) that I haven’t had enough tragedies or never “hit rock bottom” and, because of this, I developed a story that I wasn’t deserving. 

To top it off, because I hadn’t yet suffered enough (and believed I had to), I decided I needed to create more suffering in my life. I certainly couldn’t just go around as if everything was hunky-dory or enjoy life!

The lesson that hit me like a ton of bricks is the Truth that suffering is not a requirement to receiving the love, peace, and ease that each and every one of us are innately deserving.

While this may require a shift in paradigm or creating a whole new story, I invite you to really hear these words and see where in your own life you either feel undeserving or possibly even create suffering due to a belief like this.

Now that we have been reminded of what we no longer need to do to receive this Divine experience, let’s take a look at what is required of us. (We’re not off the hook completely.)

We do need to commit to radical self-responsibility.

As the youngest of four, it’s been all too easy for me to say those magic words more than once: “It wasn’t me."

My desire and ability to off-load responsibility at any opportunity has been pretty comfortable and easy for me for much of my life. However, what I’m learning more recently is that as I begin to see myself as a co-creator of my reality, taking responsibility is part of the game.

We are all deserving of love, peace, ease, and experiencing what it feels like to experience more of our True selves. The price of admission for this incredible ride includes taking full responsibility for each and every one of our choices. This may not always feel natural or comfortable, but the alternative is much less desirable. 

As we begin to take full responsibility and get out of our victim mindset (which the ego just loves!) we lighten our load and we begin to experience our own power. We acknowledge that we are responsible for how we feel, how we react, what we choose to do (or not do), and for all of the incredible love, peace, and ease we co-create in our lives.

Something I invite you to ponder is: Where are you not claiming responsibility in your life? What’s one thing you can take full responsibility for in this very moment?

The price of admission for Divine Love isn’t suffering; it’s radical self-responsibility. {Tweet that!}

One of the first things we can do is take responsibility for the suffering we have created in our lives and then, lovingly, choose a new way. 

We do not gain brownie points for being miserable and our suffering does not diminish the suffering of others—it simply keeps us from providing the love and light that is necessary in those situations.

Now that we have been invited to let go of the belief that we are not deserving unless we suffer, let’s commit to radical self-responsibility. I invite you to join me on this radical quest to notice all the ways we create our own reality and choose our own circumstances. While it may feel a little scary at first, I promise you the empowerment experienced far outweighs the fear.

After you’ve read the blog and reflected on the questions posed, share your commitment to choosing responsibility over suffering in the comments below the blog.

And, if you know someone who could benefit from being reminded of their deservingness and experience more love and peace through their own empowered choices, please share this with them.

With love & devotion.

One Way to Find Your Purpose

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is or how you can contribute to others in a meaningful way?

It’s taken me many years to recognize that my purpose and one way I can contribute to others has been right under my nose this entire time. 

Of course, I am a sucker for constant contemplation and examining just about everything that happens to me (so I just love this perspective that I share in this week’s video!).

In today’s video, I examine a few commonly held beliefs and add to it a dash of my own perspective to help point us in the direction of what our purpose is and how to find it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wondering why you’re here and why you keep learning the same lessons over and over again, I invite you to watch today’s video where I offer up some ageless advice to help clarify this.

The question “what am I here for?” and “why does this keep happening to me?” may be more closely related than you first thought.

The more we see and learn from the lessons in each moment, the more we have to contribute to others. {Tweet that!}

In order to teach what we learn, we must first be willing to be a student. So, the next time you find yourself frustrated by a recurring situation or feeling, I invite you to pause, look for the lesson in it, see if it is similar to other lessons you are learning, and then consider how these lessons can inform your interactions with and contributions to others.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you believe you are here to learn and, ultimately, share with others? Share your insights and reflections in the comments below so we can be witness to the incredibly unique gifts and purposes we each possess.

Do you know someone who could benefit from getting clearer on their purpose? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

P.S. If this question of purpose or other thoughts of guilt or doubt ever creep up on you, be sure to reserve your spot for (or receive a recording of) my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24! 

Ever Feel the Need to Change Someone?

Maybe it’s because I’m an idealist; maybe it’s because I see the best in everyone; maybe it’s because I’m a recovering control freak; but I just love to think I can change others—and, boy, I sure like to try. 

Whether it’s changing my partner to take care of himself better or change my brother’s perspective on a topic near-and-dear to my heart or encourage a stranger to be more mindful and less angry, I often take it upon myself to bring change about in the world. My mission statement that I wrote when I was 18-years-old was, “Reaching and changing lives through the performing arts.” Even then, I believed it was my duty (and within my power) to change others.

Now, this desire has (almost) always come from a place of love and wanting the best for others. Can’t people just see that I want the best for them and change, gosh-darnit? 

In today’s video, I share a few things I’ve heard recently which have helped bring me back to my center and remind me what’s within my control and what I’m really here to do.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wanting to change others from time-to-time (or, let’s be honest, nearly everyday), I invite you to watch today’s video as I unpack a few reminders to help you keep your cool and remain in your own power.

There’s nothing wrong with having a desire to help and change others—often this comes from such a good place and there are really great things we can do in the world that have a positive effect on people. As Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us by referencing a Paul Tillich quote, "all love eventually becomes help."

When we do something from a place of love, we are offering help without force or expectation. {Tweet that!}

The next time you catch yourself trying to change someone else, use it as an opportunity to look within, see if you are currently walking your own talk and being the change you wish to see in the world, and then offer any thoughts, insights, or resources purely from a place of love.

It is not our job to change others; it is our job to look within and share what we find from a place of love. {Tweet that, too!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you do when you find yourself feeling the need to change someone else? Offer us your insights from a place of love in the comments below.

Do you know someone who could benefit from hearing this valuable reminder? If so, please pass it along and see the ripple effect we can create by walking our own talk and sharing what we learn from a place of love.

P.S. Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty that you should or shouldn’t be doing something or that you’re doing too much or not enough? If so, I’d love for you to join me on my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24! Claim your spot here. 

How to Use Your Tools & Stay True to You

As a student of life, a self-help junkie, and a soulful inquirer, I’ve read a lot of books, taken a lot of courses, watched a lot of videos, and listened to a lot of podcasts. In the course of this, I’ve acquired hundreds of tools and pieces of advice—everything from meditation (in all its forms) to drinking hot lemon water to keeping a gratitude journal to reciting mantras to inquiring my thoughts to visualizations to doing yoga to many, many more.

And as an over-achieving student and dedicated disciple, I take these tools and teachings to heart and do my best to use each one and get (what a dear friend and mentor Cora Poage recently said) an A+ on my spiritual report card.

Perhaps you can relate.

It seems like everywhere we turn nowadays there is a new tool or technique or piece of advice that someone is offering us. For me, this can sometimes feel overwhelming, discouraging, or even distract me from the very thing I am trying to experience (such as relief, peace, or ease).

In today’s video, I share a fresh perspective to help bring us back to our center and experience that which we seek.

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