How I Live with Uncertainty (and How You Can, Too!)

I notice just how helpful and reassuring it is to hear stories from others who exemplify to me what it means to live an existence based on TRUST and “going with the flow.”

No matter how often I find myself in a position of uncertainty or change, it never seems to surprise me just how unfamiliar it can sometimes feel and just how valuable it is to hear others’ experiences that reaffirm for me once again just how possible it is to go through life without needing to control every little thing.

So that’s what I want to offer to you today. My story. My experience. Yet another one to add to your cauldron of examples how it IS possible to live an existence without fear, without stress, without anxiety.

My hope is that the more we share these examples, the more courage others can have when stepping out into the unknown for themselves.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 4 things I do to feel less anxious and more confident amidst uncertainty (and how you can, too!).

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My 3 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2015: Part 2

In last week’s Thoughtful Thursday, I talked about having set some soulful intentions for 2015 and reflecting on what they were and just how they came to fruition. (I’d love to have you join me for this month’s FREE seminar on Setting Soulful Intentions to learn how to set your own!)

One of those intentions was to COMMIT and experience more FOCUS in my life. Through reflection, I noticed a pattern of mine when it comes to committing, what was ultimately at the root of it, and how I’ve practiced shifting that so I can be “all in."

In today’s video, I share the second of my three biggest lessons and how it showed up for me throughout the year.

If you’re anything like me and find yourself going back and forth a lot or feeling a flip in your stomach at the thought of committing to just one thing, I invite you to watch today’s video where I’ll share one simple thing for you to do if this comes up for you again in the new year.

Learning how to be “both feet in” was a tremendous lesson for me—in my relationship, in my career, in life.

I cannot count how many times I have changed course or backed out or given up out of fear of either getting hurt or failing in some way. Basically, I was afraid if either of those things happened, I wouldn’t be okay.

For so many of us, it can be all too easy to put on even more armor or pull away when we start to notice any doubt or uncertainty.

When we love more fearlessly we acknowledge the Truth that we are always okay no matter what. {Tweet that!

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you practice loving more fearlessly? Post your tips and tricks in the comments below so we can all continue to open ourselves more fully and willingly and experience what it feels like to be “both feet in." 

P.S. Those of you who join me for my Setting Soulful Intentions Seminar will receive a special discount to my upcoming Being Good with Being You online program. This is in addition to the early bird pricing for anyone who enrolls by the end of 2015. This is a great gift to give yourself as you kick off a new year. Learn more here!

P.P.S. I truly wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year filled with peace, love, and joy as you stay true to what truly matters to you 😃 xox 

3 Ways to Live a More Fearless Existence

Ah, fear.

That sickening feeling of not knowing what could happen. The paralysis of the body and mind. That which keeps us from exploring the unknown or living a fuller existence. We all experience this very primal sensation. It is a biological firing of nerves and adrenaline we experience when our fight-or-flight goes off. Then, we get in our heads and label it “fear.” We allow this fear to limit us, make decisions for us and, more often than not, add an extreme amount of stress to our lives.

The good news? We don’t have to turn this biological sensation into anything more than an awareness to what is happening in the present moment. We can all live a more fearless existence by keeping a few things in mind.

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Part of being present is to remain non-judgmentally aware of one's mind, body and life situation without attaching to any specific outcome. This can prove quite challenging when entering unchartered waters.

This year has been full of entering the unknown for me. First, I decided to quit my day job without any "plan B." Then, I recently attended a development program in a different state from where I live and, while there, decided to return one week later to take another 10-week training program. This felt quite uncomfortable. I was relocating temporarily with very little time to plan or even think about what I was getting myself into.

I can definitely say that many times during this year I have experienced a sensation that I label as “fear."

So, how do I practice presence in the face of all of this uncertainty and discomfort?

First of all, sometimes I don’t. But, I have noticed a significant increase in my ability to live with the discomfort and the fear. It helps me in these moments to keep a few things in mind.

Remember that fear is not reality-based.

The sensation we often label as “fear” is more often than not a lack of information. We then find ourselves feeling anxious about what might or might not happen in the future which keeps us out of reality. Everything happens in the present moment — nothing happens in the past or future.

"The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger. It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now.”

It’s helpful to take the time to shift our focus to remain open and take in as much information as possible in each moment instead of worrying about the non-reality of the future.

Ask: What’s the worst thing that can happen?

"The reason why you don’t put your hand in the fire is not because of fear, it’s because you know that you’ll get burned. You don’t need fear to avoid unnecessary danger — just a minimum of intelligence and common sense.” - Eckhart Tolle

When we are faced with something that we are unfamiliar with or do not know which way to go, we can ask ourselves, “what is the worst thing that can happen?” This helps ground us and bring us back to the reality of the situation and not get caught up in the endless scenarios of the mind.

Sometimes we may even be surprised that the worst thing isn’t really that bad after all.

Move through the fear.

Courage is not about doing something with the absence of fear but rather moving through it. Sometimes we experience a sensation in our bodies when we do not have enough information or a similar experience to draw upon from our past. But this is just a bodily sensation.

Moving through the fear means that we experience the physical sensation without labeling it or creating additional emotions or stressful thoughts around it. As Eckhart Tolle says, “You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection — you cannot cope with the future."

When we let fear drive our decision-making, we are putting our life in the hands of a non-reality based emotion that restricts us rather than expands us.

We limit ourselves when we allow our fears to go beyond the initial reaction. This can happen a lot when we are going to make decisions. And when we make fear-based decisions, we are saying “no” to life rather than “yes” to possibilities.

How do you let fear limit you? What are other ways you practice presence in the face of fear? Join the conversation by leaving a comment below.