One Word to Help You Receive More of What You Want

One Word to Help You Receive More of What You Want

My life has taken many twists and turns, always pursuing the next opportunity whether that’s trying out gymnastics, dance, theatre, corporate consulting, traveling to South America on a whim, quitting my job, moving to a new place.

More often than not, I am willing to see what else is possible or what other opportunity is ready to present itself to me.

I notice that I may have a bias towards saying, “Yes!” more often than “No.” 

And, still, I am learning so much about what it means to truly be willing and the positive effect it can have.

Using a simple mantra and making one small change has made a big difference in my life. Curious what it is? 

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Freedom Isn't Just For the Birds (or Nomads)

A few months ago I explored this idea of freedom and what it means to me.

It’s incredible just how much this perspective continues to support me in a way that feels so true and so expansive. Yet, I’m also being reminded that one does not need to sell all of their belongings (though a certain amount of downsizing can help facilitate a sense of freedom) or travel the world to experience freedom and limitless possibilities. 

We can all experience freedom in each and every moment no matter what our circumstances—it’s simply a practice of seeing life through a different lens.

So while I chose to free myself from my possessions and home, I am well aware that this is not the source of my freedom.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 3 things we all can do to experience more freedom no matter where we are or what our situation might be.

Freedom isn’t found in a suitcase or lack of possessions; it's found in the choices we have in each and every moment. {Tweet that!}

Once you’ve had a chance to watch the video, I’d love to hear from you.

What does freedom mean to you? How can you experience more freedom and limitless possibilities right now in your life as it is?

Leave a comment below and let me know! 

I’d love to hear from you because while I am learning that it is part of my constitution to be a wanderer and an adventurer and I thrive with change, it is definitely not for everyone; and, though it offers me much freedom, it is certainly not the only way to experience more freedom and possibilities in our lives.

Sending love from the road,

A

P.S. Want to learn more about how I handle the fear and uncertainty that comes up living on the road (and that comes up even when you’re not living out of a suitcase)? I’d love to have you join me for this month's Being Inspired Seminar Series on Tuesday, January 26 at 7pm ET. Be sure to register here to receive each month's call in details, calendar invites, and reminders. I will be hosting a new topic on the last Tuesday of each month at 7pm ET and would love to have you join me! (Recordings of each call will be sent out to those who have registered so no worries if you can't join me live!)

Want to Know How I Turned My Perfectionism on Its Head?


You know that moment when you hit “send” and then think “oh, crap"? 

This happened to me (twice!) just the other week.

I realized the error but it was too late. It was gone. The internet had magically delivered it. There was no turning back.

I was starting the pre-launch of my virtual program, Being Good with Being You, and was so excited to share some free videos with my incredible audience (aka you).

At the same time, I decided to switch my blogging platform to my website and change how my blogs are sent to my list of loyal readers (again, you).

Right in the midst of my pre-launch, the magical mystical incomprehensible internet decided to send the same blog post to my list twice in the same day, only minutes apart.

My gut sank. Oh, no. Here I am, already sending out a number of emails and videos to my audience with the intent to offer value and inspiration and now I’m inundating their inbox with a duplicate message!

I took a moment to think about what I ought to do. The perfectionist in me was screaming, “Fix it!! Make it right!! Send another message explaining what happened so all can be forgiven!!"

Then, another voice (which happened to be the voice of a dear friend of mine) said, “It’s fine. Better not to send another email at this point."

Finally, another voice (this one coming from deep within) said, “It is what it is. Just surrender."

Just to be sure that I truly knew how to surrender my perfectionism and test my ability to stay calm through it all, the universe (or the internet, whichever you prefer to call it) decided to test me one more time just a few days later.

This time, an email got sent out with a glaring error in it. It wasn’t just a word that was misspelled or a comma out of place. It was an entire copy-and-paste-gone-wrong scenario.

Again, my heart sank and the perfectionist was ready to fight. Luckily, this time, my deeper voice was quicker on the scene and immediately reminded me to take a few breaths and surrender. It is what it is.

A major theme in my work lately has been about perfectionism and seeing how it’s cropped up in my own life time and time again, and just how limiting it can be. (If you haven’t done so already, be sure to download my free ebook on this very topic.)

With all of this introspection, I started to judge the word “perfect” as destructive and avoided using it as often as possible. I stood firmly that perfectionism only limits us and is something that needs to be overcome.

The reason I have taken this stance so vigorously in the past is because I have seen and personally experienced the negative impacts from striving for perfection. I know I’m not the only one who sees or experiences this. It bombards our society, our marketing, our bookshelves, our conversations, you name it.

Recently, I finished reading Michael Singer’s book, “The Surrender Experiment,” and he uses the word “perfect” quite a bit. At first, I was put off by it and resisted the use of that word. Then, I paused and noticed how he was using it. It wasn’t in the way many of us might think.

A few days later I was doing my Morning Pages and it struck me, “What if my definition of perfectionism no longer serves me? What if there is another definition?"

What if “perfect” doesn’t mean something going exactly the way I want it to and living up to my standards and, rather, perfectionism is when something goes exactly as it’s meant to?

This new perspective allows me to no longer have the same recoiling reaction I’ve had to the word “perfect.” I now see how everything that occurs when we release our own expectations, limitations, or control is just that. 

When we release our grip on our own perfectionism, we are free to experience the perfectionism of the universe. {Tweet that!}

For an instant gratification society, this may not be the most ideal working definition because it might take some time to see how a moment or an event is indeed perfect. This requires trust that everything is exactly as it’s meant to be. But it is well worth it. The freedom and expansion that comes from this belief is transformative.

As I think back on my two recent email “blunders,” I now see how they provided me with a perfect opportunity to surrender and share this message with others.

Had those emails not gone out with “imperfections,” inspiration for this message would not have been received, and this post would not have been written and shared.

Now it's your turn! What is your working definition of “perfect”? I’d love to hear what you think so please take a moment to share your thoughts in the comments below.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. I felt a strong calling to switch it up this week and publish a written blog instead of a video. I’d love to hear what you think and if you happen to prefer one over the other! Leave it in the comments below or share it on my Facebook page

Craving More Freedom? Then Check This Out

Have you ever pondered the question, “What is true freedom?"

Now, there are seemingly many kinds of “freedom” out there—financial, creative, time, sexual, etc.

The other day I was having a conversation with the amazing Tara Tag about what financial freedom means. And it dawned on me that financial freedom isn’t having a certain amount of money—it’s knowing that I am able to make a choice based on what’s true for me instead of what’s in my bank account.

I realized that it’s a perception thing—not necessarily reality. I have a choice. I mean, I literally have a choice to spend money on something or put it on a credit card or find a way to create more money or not.

Then I noticed how this is true in so many other areas of my life. In all of these, I have a choice and can, therefore, experience freedom in all of them in any moment.

If we want to be free, we need to acknowledge (and exercise) the choice we have in each moment. {Tweet that!}

In this video, I’m going to share with you just what freedom means to me and how we can go about experiencing more of it in our lives. 

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