The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

The 3 “P’s” for a Happier Life

Now that it’s been over two years since I quit my full-time job, I’ve had lots of time to learn what it means to be my own boss. Through the creation of my own business, I’ve gotten to see common themes and patterns emerge that are incredible teachers to me.

Of course, it’s not just in my business that these lessons show up. 

I’m noticing how there are three important things I am consistently being asked to practice more and more often in my business and in my relationship with my partner and with myself.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the three things to practice whether you’re starting a business, in a relationship, or simply looking to live a more expansive and happier existence.

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My 3 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2015: Part 2

In last week’s Thoughtful Thursday, I talked about having set some soulful intentions for 2015 and reflecting on what they were and just how they came to fruition. (I’d love to have you join me for this month’s FREE seminar on Setting Soulful Intentions to learn how to set your own!)

One of those intentions was to COMMIT and experience more FOCUS in my life. Through reflection, I noticed a pattern of mine when it comes to committing, what was ultimately at the root of it, and how I’ve practiced shifting that so I can be “all in."

In today’s video, I share the second of my three biggest lessons and how it showed up for me throughout the year.

If you’re anything like me and find yourself going back and forth a lot or feeling a flip in your stomach at the thought of committing to just one thing, I invite you to watch today’s video where I’ll share one simple thing for you to do if this comes up for you again in the new year.

Learning how to be “both feet in” was a tremendous lesson for me—in my relationship, in my career, in life.

I cannot count how many times I have changed course or backed out or given up out of fear of either getting hurt or failing in some way. Basically, I was afraid if either of those things happened, I wouldn’t be okay.

For so many of us, it can be all too easy to put on even more armor or pull away when we start to notice any doubt or uncertainty.

When we love more fearlessly we acknowledge the Truth that we are always okay no matter what. {Tweet that!

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you practice loving more fearlessly? Post your tips and tricks in the comments below so we can all continue to open ourselves more fully and willingly and experience what it feels like to be “both feet in." 

P.S. Those of you who join me for my Setting Soulful Intentions Seminar will receive a special discount to my upcoming Being Good with Being You online program. This is in addition to the early bird pricing for anyone who enrolls by the end of 2015. This is a great gift to give yourself as you kick off a new year. Learn more here!

P.P.S. I truly wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year filled with peace, love, and joy as you stay true to what truly matters to you 😃 xox 

How to Uncover Mind-Blowing Truths

The past couple of weeks have been chock-full of deep deep lessons. A lot is coming up for me and I can tell I’m working through a lot of old stories and beliefs. And in the process, I’m uncovering a few things that are kind of surprising.

In today’s video, I share with you just what this deep Truth is and how exactly I went about uncovering it so that you can try the same thing yourself.

If you’re anything like me and enjoy looking for the lessons in everything (or would like to do this more often), I invite you to watch today’s video and learn a process you can use to do just that. (Who knows, it might just blow your mind!)

I’m starting to notice just how many layers there are to this journey of revealing one’s wholeness. And I’m still somewhat surprised what I discover underneath each new layer.

The cool thing is that it gets more encouraging and inspirational the further I go.

It’s like digging for buried treasure and, while your arms might start getting tired the further you dig and you may even start to feel a bit impatient, sooner or later you strike something hard and you are encouraged to keep digging because you know you’re about to reveal something magnificent.

Part of what I discovered as I started digging for this treasure is what I’ve been avoiding—which completely shocked me. I shared in another video a simple question that we can all use to reduce guilt and increase clarity and it involves exploring what we are avoiding and how to better assess why we’re avoiding something to begin with.

I also discovered (again) just how important it is to feel something fully and completely, which I talked about in this previous video.

As I continue digging, I become more and more clear that there is nothing to “fix” but there are so many lessons to learn and if we can remain open and curious to them, it’s incredible just how much more of our wholeness we can uncover.

Looking for the lesson doesn’t imply something is broken; it implies there's something to be revealed. {Tweet that!}

In order to reach the buried treasure, we must be willing to sweat and maybe even get a little dirty. So the next time you sense there’s a deeper Truth or part of yourself just waiting to be revealed, take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and start digging. Trust me, it’s worth it.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What mind-blowing awareness did you have recently? Share your treasure in the comments below so we can all deepen into our own Truth through someone else’s experience.

Do you know someone who could benefit from learning how to uncover more of their own treasure that lies within? If so, please pass this along to them and be part of the ripple effect.

With profound appreciation,

A

P.S. If you want to dig for even more gold, be sure to join me for my Being You Holiday Challenge! Together we will use the process I discovered is key to going from “never enough” to “always okay” and serves as the framework for my signature training program, Being Good with Being You. Did I mention it’s free to join? I’d love to have you there! 

Life-Altering Lessons Learned from the Sacred Valley

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Many of us are on a journey. For some of us, it is a physical journey traveling or nomad-ing around. For others, it is an inner, spiritual journey. And for some of you like me, it’s a combination of both.

As some of you may know, I am in the beautiful and sacred land of Peru where I am spending three weeks traveling and participating in an Embodying Love retreat (hosted by the incredible Cora Poage and Ginny Muir) and exploring the mystical and magical parts of this exquisite country (along with my inner world). And, what a powerful trip it has been!

Not only have I been blown away by the beauty of the land and the people of this country, but I have also been blown away by the lessons that this trip has in store for me.

In today’s blog, I share the top lessons this land has taught me during my time here on retreat as I reconnected with the Earth, my Inner Light, and experienced Divine Love on a cellular level.

If you’re anything like me and have ever found yourself wondering if you’re deserving of receiving this kind of love, I invite you to read today’s blog and be reminded of just how deserving you are and what exactly it takes (and doesn’t take).

As a lifelong member and current President of the Soulful Inquirer Club, I have gathered a lot of lessons and timeless reminders over the years. I’m always on the lookout for a new awareness or a-ha moment as I continue to reveal more and more of my True self.

It never fails to surprise me that many of the lessons we learn aren’t new lessons but rather ageless reminders that we’ve heard many, many times before. And so it was the case as I uncovered even more of my True self in the depths of the Sacred Valley in Peru. The lessons I learned here weren’t necessarily new but they resonated with me on a whole new level.

The thing I want to share most with you is that we are all deserving of Divine Love (with a capital “L”).

I was reminded on a deep, deep level that while there is a price of admission, there is one thing we do not need to buy into which totally blew my mind (and might blow yours, too).

So, what’s the cost (and what’s the belief we can give up once and for all)?

We do not need to suffer.

Yep, that’s right.

I know it might go against nearly every grain in your body—at least it did (does) mine. 

It became crystal clear to me just how undeserving I have felt of Divine Love because I haven’t suffered enough. I can recall all the times I told myself (and others) that I haven’t had enough tragedies or never “hit rock bottom” and, because of this, I developed a story that I wasn’t deserving. 

To top it off, because I hadn’t yet suffered enough (and believed I had to), I decided I needed to create more suffering in my life. I certainly couldn’t just go around as if everything was hunky-dory or enjoy life!

The lesson that hit me like a ton of bricks is the Truth that suffering is not a requirement to receiving the love, peace, and ease that each and every one of us are innately deserving.

While this may require a shift in paradigm or creating a whole new story, I invite you to really hear these words and see where in your own life you either feel undeserving or possibly even create suffering due to a belief like this.

Now that we have been reminded of what we no longer need to do to receive this Divine experience, let’s take a look at what is required of us. (We’re not off the hook completely.)

We do need to commit to radical self-responsibility.

As the youngest of four, it’s been all too easy for me to say those magic words more than once: “It wasn’t me."

My desire and ability to off-load responsibility at any opportunity has been pretty comfortable and easy for me for much of my life. However, what I’m learning more recently is that as I begin to see myself as a co-creator of my reality, taking responsibility is part of the game.

We are all deserving of love, peace, ease, and experiencing what it feels like to experience more of our True selves. The price of admission for this incredible ride includes taking full responsibility for each and every one of our choices. This may not always feel natural or comfortable, but the alternative is much less desirable. 

As we begin to take full responsibility and get out of our victim mindset (which the ego just loves!) we lighten our load and we begin to experience our own power. We acknowledge that we are responsible for how we feel, how we react, what we choose to do (or not do), and for all of the incredible love, peace, and ease we co-create in our lives.

Something I invite you to ponder is: Where are you not claiming responsibility in your life? What’s one thing you can take full responsibility for in this very moment?

The price of admission for Divine Love isn’t suffering; it’s radical self-responsibility. {Tweet that!}

One of the first things we can do is take responsibility for the suffering we have created in our lives and then, lovingly, choose a new way. 

We do not gain brownie points for being miserable and our suffering does not diminish the suffering of others—it simply keeps us from providing the love and light that is necessary in those situations.

Now that we have been invited to let go of the belief that we are not deserving unless we suffer, let’s commit to radical self-responsibility. I invite you to join me on this radical quest to notice all the ways we create our own reality and choose our own circumstances. While it may feel a little scary at first, I promise you the empowerment experienced far outweighs the fear.

After you’ve read the blog and reflected on the questions posed, share your commitment to choosing responsibility over suffering in the comments below the blog.

And, if you know someone who could benefit from being reminded of their deservingness and experience more love and peace through their own empowered choices, please share this with them.

With love & devotion.

One Way to Find Your Purpose

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is or how you can contribute to others in a meaningful way?

It’s taken me many years to recognize that my purpose and one way I can contribute to others has been right under my nose this entire time. 

Of course, I am a sucker for constant contemplation and examining just about everything that happens to me (so I just love this perspective that I share in this week’s video!).

In today’s video, I examine a few commonly held beliefs and add to it a dash of my own perspective to help point us in the direction of what our purpose is and how to find it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wondering why you’re here and why you keep learning the same lessons over and over again, I invite you to watch today’s video where I offer up some ageless advice to help clarify this.

The question “what am I here for?” and “why does this keep happening to me?” may be more closely related than you first thought.

The more we see and learn from the lessons in each moment, the more we have to contribute to others. {Tweet that!}

In order to teach what we learn, we must first be willing to be a student. So, the next time you find yourself frustrated by a recurring situation or feeling, I invite you to pause, look for the lesson in it, see if it is similar to other lessons you are learning, and then consider how these lessons can inform your interactions with and contributions to others.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you believe you are here to learn and, ultimately, share with others? Share your insights and reflections in the comments below so we can be witness to the incredibly unique gifts and purposes we each possess.

Do you know someone who could benefit from getting clearer on their purpose? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

P.S. If this question of purpose or other thoughts of guilt or doubt ever creep up on you, be sure to reserve your spot for (or receive a recording of) my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24!