Becoming Enough: An Author's Journey #2

Writing a book about becoming enough brings with it plenty of opportunities to practice what I preach and be okay with who I already am and trust the inherent perfection of all things. (If you are curious just what my book is about, check this out.)

This can certainly feel challenging when I’m in the midst of deadlines (albeit self-imposed). Before the year was out, I found myself thinking, “I’m behind schedule.” My intention had been to write a chapter a week starting in November and I went a couple of weeks without writing or submitting anything to my publisher. In the past, it would have been all too easy to think of myself as a failure, to see how I’m not doing enough, how I’m slacking off and will never make it in life. (Yes, that is how extreme my ego can make things.)

Instead, I took deep breath and said, “It’s enough.” I celebrated what I had accomplished (having written nearly 17,500 words and receiving clear inspiration for the cover design) as opposed to focusing on what I hadn’t. And, like all things do, it unfolded perfectly. I am writing the chapter I am to write now. The conversations I have had recently, the mental clarity I have today, the lessons I’ve learned each day leading up until now have prepared me for what it is I am to write about. I couldn’t have written what I was “supposed to” write in December before now.

This is the magic of creation—of life—when we get out of our own way. 

Now, when I am “behind schedule,” I trust that what is meant to come through me will come through me at exactly the right time. This is true because I am open and willing. As I deepen into this trust, I can release my need to control things, feel “less than,” or be hard on myself when things don’t initially “go as planned.” This is available to all of us; it is not something reserved for me as a writer of being enough. 

If you didn’t read my last update on how I got to where I am today, I invite you to take a peek to better understand the many steps that unfolded perfectly in their own perfect time. And, be sure to sign up to receive future updates directly to your inbox along with early-bird opportunities to get your copy of Becoming Enough including an opportunity to receive a copy for free!

Finding Grace

grace

noun 

  1. unmerited favor.
  2. knowing that I am accepted, loved, and enough just the way I am.

This year, I had the sincere privilege of defining what grace means to me and write a story to exemplify this in an inspiring way. This definition served as the foundation for me to write my story which became part of the #1 best selling book, 365 Moments of Grace, which was released earlier this week. 

This is a realization of a practice I started doing last year—declaring my "I am's" while lying in bed before going to sleep. A practice I learned from Wayne Dyer's book, Wishes Fulfilled. And the power of the "I AM's" is mighty indeed! Here I am: a published author. I couldn't be prouder! 

I hope you enjoy my story and are inspired by the simplicity of the realization that struck me while on the subway. There are plenty more like it inside the book which I invite you to check out.

Epiphany on the F Train 

After quitting my job and exploring what it was I wanted to do and create and how I wanted to serve others, I was standing on the F train in New York City when it struck me: What if it’s not about doing more or being better; what if it’s about being good with being you?

This became my mantra and, though I didn’t know it at the time, my personal and professional mission for the next 365+ days. This was not just a pivotal moment for me; it was a whole new way of looking at the world and at my life.

Ever since I was a little girl, I looked for ways to improve myself, thinking that if I shaved the hair off my arms, then I would be accepted; if I got better grades, then I would be enough; if I figured out why I am the way I am, then I could finally “fix” it and be lovable.

I have always had this knack for self-improvement. I just love to pick up a good self-help book, curl up on the couch, and mull over all the ways I have been doing it wrong. I certainly don’t believe that personal growth is a bad thing – after all, change/growth/evolution is the only constant! The thing is, though, I spent the past 30-some years forgetting a crucial part of this: grace. Unmerited favor. Knowing that I am accepted, loved, and enough just the way I am. There is nothing I can do for this to be more or less true.

It’s all too easy for me to make things bigger, better, and faster, which is why it was so important for me to consciously set that aside and practice the thing I had neglected my entire life – love and acceptance of who I am, exactly as I am. Without this, any pursuit simply reinforces the false belief that I am not already a masterpiece and am only a never-ending work-in-progress that is not quite yet deserving of love and acceptance.

This new understanding is not the end of the story for me, and I am ready for the next stage in my evolution – but this time I know that it will include a whole lot of self-acceptance, love, and grace.

If you're interested in learning more about this book and what an incredible opportunity it has been for me and the other 250+ authors, I invite you to read more on Dan Teck's blog. He and his wife, Jodi Chapman, are the inspiration behind the 365 Book Series—a brilliant way to inspire, uplift, and remind us of just how magical our world is and how connected we truly are. 

Releasing Our Attachments: Part 2

We've made it.

We have taken a stroll through the SOAR framework to give you a better understanding of just how powerful it can be to observe and accept what is and to start to release your attachments.

If you missed any of the last five videos, you can find them in my blog stream below.

Today, we explore the second part of the final stage of releasing our attachments as we look at what non-attachment is (again, not what you might think) and how we can practice more of it in our lives. 

This video offers a great visual for you to carry with you that you won't want to miss!

"By opening your heart to all of life—but clinging to none of it—you are participating in life fully." ~ Gay Hendricks

I appreciate you taking time to watch these videos and learn a bit more about my process and how I have gone from "never enough" to "always okay."

It is an ongoing practice that I continue to this day (and expect to for the rest of my life). If you are interested in taking this practice a step further, I invite you to take a look at my virtual course, Being Good with Being You, that is based on this SOAR framework. I would be honored to continue to be a part of your journey.

And, if you have enjoyed these videos and would like to receive more from me like this, be sure to sign up for my inspirational updates

Releasing Our Attachments: Part 1

So, now that we've looked at how to observe more non-judgmentally and start to accept what is without believing that means we need to just give up or stop trying, it's time to put all this practice to use as we enter the third stage of going from "never enough" to "always okay." 

Today, we start looking at the first part of releasing our attachments. In this video, I'll teach you the simplest and most powerful to start releasing anything you might be attached to—it's almost so simple it's silly.

But, I can attest that it works. Once I started putting this into practice, my clinging to outcomes and beliefs and expectations and thinking things would always stay the same loosened dramatically, and I experienced more freedom and lightness in my life.

If you're curious what this simple practice is, watch today's video.

"'I am the awareness that is aware that there is attachment.' That's the beginning of the transformation of consciousness." ~ Eckhart Tolle

Just one more video to go where we will explore part two of releasing our attachments and what this might look like in your life.

Until next time ...

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 2

And, we're back.

This whole idea of acceptance and accepting what is can be a real doozy. We started talking about it in the last video which you can watch here if you haven't already.

In today's video, we take a look at the second part of learning to accept what is. There are a lot of misconceptions of what it means to accept what is and in this video we explore how it's not just rolling over or giving up. 

So, what is it then? Watch the video to find out!

Acceptance does not lead to apathy; acceptance leads to peace.

We have now looked at the first two stages of the SOAR framework and will take a look at the final stage—releasing our attachments—in the next video.

See you then!

Learning to Accept What Is: Part 1

Acceptance. The word alone can bring up a bunch of resistance for most of us. 

Many of us have a bad taste in our mouths when we think of "accepting what is"—at least I did when I first started down this path.

Now, I feel quite differently about it, and maybe you do, too.

Either way, in today's video we explore the first part of this stage of learning to accept what is. Much like what we learned in the first two videos which you can find here and here, we will start with awareness.

Watch today's video to learn more about what it really means to accept what is and the first step to practicing it more often.

“Whenever you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Once you watch the video, I'd love to hear from you what the most difficult thing is for you when it comes to accepting what is. 

This continues to evolve for me as I imagine it does for you.

I'll see you in the next video where we explore the second part of this stage and answer the question, "So how exactly do I accept what is without just rolling over and giving up?"