How I Live with Uncertainty (and How You Can, Too!)

I notice just how helpful and reassuring it is to hear stories from others who exemplify to me what it means to live an existence based on TRUST and “going with the flow.”

No matter how often I find myself in a position of uncertainty or change, it never seems to surprise me just how unfamiliar it can sometimes feel and just how valuable it is to hear others’ experiences that reaffirm for me once again just how possible it is to go through life without needing to control every little thing.

So that’s what I want to offer to you today. My story. My experience. Yet another one to add to your cauldron of examples how it IS possible to live an existence without fear, without stress, without anxiety.

My hope is that the more we share these examples, the more courage others can have when stepping out into the unknown for themselves.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 4 things I do to feel less anxious and more confident amidst uncertainty (and how you can, too!).

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A Recipe for a Soulful Year

In the last few Thoughtful Thursday’s, I shared a bit about how important setting intentions are for me and how they have made such a tremendous difference in my life.

I like to think that I’m not the only one who's not always into the whole resolution thing or maybe even worried if you set yourself a goal and don’t achieve it, you’ll be left feeling disappointed or not good enough when December 31 rolls around.

So I found a new way to go about this whole new year’s approach which has left me feeling excited and wonderfully surprised at the end of each year.

In today’s video, you’ll learn the 3 intentions I revealed for 2016, how I see them guiding me this year, and how you can go about setting your own soulful intentions that will guide and support you for the next 365 days.

"Setting intentions is a great alternative to start off a new year already feeling whole and complete.” {Tweet that!}

If you want to go through the process and set your own soulful intentions, I invite you to watch my Setting Soulful Intentions seminar.

Now it's your turn! I’d love to hear from you.

Do you have any intentions for 2016 and, if so, how did you go about setting them?

Leave a comment below and let me know!

xo

P.S. If one of your intentions this year has anything to do with accepting yourself for who you are or releasing your self-judgments, expectations, and attachments, then I encourage you to learn more about my online course, Being Good with Being You. Registration is open!

My 3 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2015: Part 3

Happy last day of 2015!

In last week’s Thoughtful Thursday, I talked about learning what it meant to love more fearlessly and how that made a difference in the intention I set to COMMIT to things and choose to be “all in.” Well, another intention I set for 2015 was to CULTIVATE. 

Through reflection, I noticed how I was holding myself back from truly cultivating all that I desire because I wasn’t fully trusting the Universe/God/Source to support me—I was clinging to the need to “figure it out” and clinging to a certain outcome.

In today’s video, I share the third biggest lesson I learned this year which happens to be another thing I’ve been clinging to for most of my life, and how it’s completely unnecessary.

Curious what that is? Then, I invite you to watch today’s video where I’ll share what so many of us hold on to that is keeping us from truly experiencing the love, peace, and joy we are seeking.

Learning to let go of our attachment to our struggle and trusting that we are exactly where we need to be and already worthy of Divine love and peace doesn’t always feel easy. And yet, my question remains: why continue to struggle when we can instead trust that we are deserving just the way we are? 

That’s not a judgment—it’s a sincere question that I’m still exploring for myself. Perhaps it can be one that you, too, gently explore with love and curiosity as you move into a new year.

Realizing we need not suffer to be deserving of love or anything else in our life, reveals more of our True worth. {Tweet that!}

If you are interested in learning more about how to reveal more of your True worth and work on releasing your self-judgments, expectations, and attachments, then I encourage you, to read more about my online course, Being Good with Being You. Registration is open, enrollment is ongoing, and early-bird pricing lasts through the end of the year.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you practice letting go of the struggle or your attachment to it? Post your tips and tricks in the comments below so we can all learn from your insights and wisdom.

With deep honor of who you are in this very moment,

A

P.S. I truly wish you and yours a very Happy New Year filled with peace, love, and joy as you continue to deepen into your True self! xox 

My 3 Biggest Lessons Learned in 2015: Part 2

In last week’s Thoughtful Thursday, I talked about having set some soulful intentions for 2015 and reflecting on what they were and just how they came to fruition. (I’d love to have you join me for this month’s FREE seminar on Setting Soulful Intentions to learn how to set your own!)

One of those intentions was to COMMIT and experience more FOCUS in my life. Through reflection, I noticed a pattern of mine when it comes to committing, what was ultimately at the root of it, and how I’ve practiced shifting that so I can be “all in."

In today’s video, I share the second of my three biggest lessons and how it showed up for me throughout the year.

If you’re anything like me and find yourself going back and forth a lot or feeling a flip in your stomach at the thought of committing to just one thing, I invite you to watch today’s video where I’ll share one simple thing for you to do if this comes up for you again in the new year.

Learning how to be “both feet in” was a tremendous lesson for me—in my relationship, in my career, in life.

I cannot count how many times I have changed course or backed out or given up out of fear of either getting hurt or failing in some way. Basically, I was afraid if either of those things happened, I wouldn’t be okay.

For so many of us, it can be all too easy to put on even more armor or pull away when we start to notice any doubt or uncertainty.

When we love more fearlessly we acknowledge the Truth that we are always okay no matter what. {Tweet that!

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you practice loving more fearlessly? Post your tips and tricks in the comments below so we can all continue to open ourselves more fully and willingly and experience what it feels like to be “both feet in." 

P.S. Those of you who join me for my Setting Soulful Intentions Seminar will receive a special discount to my upcoming Being Good with Being You online program. This is in addition to the early bird pricing for anyone who enrolls by the end of 2015. This is a great gift to give yourself as you kick off a new year. Learn more here!

P.P.S. I truly wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year filled with peace, love, and joy as you stay true to what truly matters to you 😃 xox 

My 3 Biggest Lessons from 2015: Part 1

Almost exactly one year ago today, I sat down and reflected on 2014 and thought about the year to come.

What I became aware of was that my focus for 2014 had been self-reflection and self-development (energy moving inward with a lot of internal work). I invested a lot of time and money on myself, hiring a creative emergence coach, traveling to South America, and enrolling in multiple personal development programs.

Then it was time to set my intentions. I had a pretty clear sense that 2015 was going to be all about moving outward with a lot more external work in the world. As I sat down and wrote out my intentions (which I’m going to be teaching others how to do in my upcoming seminar on December 29th at 2pm ET), I became aware that my focus for 2015 was going to be self-direction and other-development. I was ready to take all that I had learned and done in 2014 and bring it to others in the new year.

My three intentions (can you tell I have a thing for "three's"?) for 2015 were to: create, commit, and cultivate. Put another way, I was looking for more creativity, focus, and abundance in my life.

Now, almost exactly one year later, as I reflect on 2015, I see just how effective my intention-setting was.

While I may not have checked each goal off my list (yet another reason I am less interested in goal-setting than I am intention-setting), my intentions were met. That’s the cool thing about intentions—they are touchstones that can serve as a guiding light throughout the year while allowing us to remain open to the flow and guidance of the universe.

As I reflect on how my intentions to be more creative, focused, and abundant came to fruition, I feel called to share the top three lessons I learned (as the lessons learned are equally as important as the intentions set).

In today’s video, I share the first of these and how exactly I learned it and practiced it throughout the year.

If you’re anything like me and are interested in using this time of year to reflect on the lessons you’ve learned, I invite you to watch today’s video where my insights might just spark an incredible lesson for you to take with you into the new year.

For so many of us, it’s all too easy to get to the end of the year and feel disappointed or "less than.” This is why I’ve started setting intentions that support my wholeness and choose to see the lessons I’ve learned as important to my end-of-year reflections so that I can be reminded that everything happens for a reason to get me to where I am right now. Plus ...

Reflecting on the lessons learned helps us focus on how far we’ve come rather than on what we didn’t accomplish. {Tweet that!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What was one of your biggest lessons learned in 2015? Post your learnings and reflections in the comments below so we can all continue to learn from one another on this incredible journey.

Do you know someone who could benefit from reflecting on the lessons from 2015? If so, please pass this along to them. It’s a great time of year to give to others! 

How I Remember to Enjoy the Ride Rather than Wait Until I Arrive

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Have you ever felt like throwing your hands up in the air and just saying, “Forget this! I’m done!”?

There are a few lessons that I took away from my recent experience of this, including the power in allowing myself to feel all the exhaustion, disappointment, and not measuring up, and reaching out to my incredible Mentor Masterclass sisterhood and asking them to witness me as I felt these things.

But one of the lessons stands out to me among the rest and is what I want to share with you in today’s Thoughtful Thursday

In today’s video, I share with you what this lesson is and how I’ve taken it to help me during times like this (and, better yet, before it gets to the point of wanting to give up).

If you’ve ever found yourself feeling hopeless, tired, or a little discouraged, I invite you to watch today’s video and hear a profound reminder and a few ways to practically put it to practice in your life. 

The more I look to deepen into my True self and share it with the world, the more often I am tempted to feel attached to what I’m “trying to reach”—whether that’s a certain level of income, a certain audience size, a certain mental state, whatever.

Which is why I’m so grateful for reminders like these to float into my awareness. So, here’s another one for you today.

It’s not about getting to x, y, or z; it’s about being willing to experience whatever you encounter on the way there. {Tweet that!}

It seems as though the further we travel on this journey, the more important it becomes to remember there’s no place to “get to” and to take it all a bit less seriously. Life can be one heck of a ride, after all. It’s up to us if we close our eyes and hate every minute of it, or if we throw our arms up and scream in exhilaration.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What is one thing you do to engage in the journey more willingly and less seriously and remain less attached to the destination? Share your tip in the comments below so we can all learn more ways to enjoy this ride as much as possible. 

How to Uncover Mind-Blowing Truths

The past couple of weeks have been chock-full of deep deep lessons. A lot is coming up for me and I can tell I’m working through a lot of old stories and beliefs. And in the process, I’m uncovering a few things that are kind of surprising.

In today’s video, I share with you just what this deep Truth is and how exactly I went about uncovering it so that you can try the same thing yourself.

If you’re anything like me and enjoy looking for the lessons in everything (or would like to do this more often), I invite you to watch today’s video and learn a process you can use to do just that. (Who knows, it might just blow your mind!)

I’m starting to notice just how many layers there are to this journey of revealing one’s wholeness. And I’m still somewhat surprised what I discover underneath each new layer.

The cool thing is that it gets more encouraging and inspirational the further I go.

It’s like digging for buried treasure and, while your arms might start getting tired the further you dig and you may even start to feel a bit impatient, sooner or later you strike something hard and you are encouraged to keep digging because you know you’re about to reveal something magnificent.

Part of what I discovered as I started digging for this treasure is what I’ve been avoiding—which completely shocked me. I shared in another video a simple question that we can all use to reduce guilt and increase clarity and it involves exploring what we are avoiding and how to better assess why we’re avoiding something to begin with.

I also discovered (again) just how important it is to feel something fully and completely, which I talked about in this previous video.

As I continue digging, I become more and more clear that there is nothing to “fix” but there are so many lessons to learn and if we can remain open and curious to them, it’s incredible just how much more of our wholeness we can uncover.

Looking for the lesson doesn’t imply something is broken; it implies there's something to be revealed. {Tweet that!}

In order to reach the buried treasure, we must be willing to sweat and maybe even get a little dirty. So the next time you sense there’s a deeper Truth or part of yourself just waiting to be revealed, take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and start digging. Trust me, it’s worth it.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What mind-blowing awareness did you have recently? Share your treasure in the comments below so we can all deepen into our own Truth through someone else’s experience.

Do you know someone who could benefit from learning how to uncover more of their own treasure that lies within? If so, please pass this along to them and be part of the ripple effect.

With profound appreciation,

A

P.S. If you want to dig for even more gold, be sure to join me for my Being You Holiday Challenge! Together we will use the process I discovered is key to going from “never enough” to “always okay” and serves as the framework for my signature training program, Being Good with Being You. Did I mention it’s free to join? I’d love to have you there! 

My New Approach to Life (and Why It’s worth Trying)

Have you ever had one of those days (or weeks) when you didn’t think you could feel any worse? When those old hurts and stories and patterns started to emerge? 

I had one of those just the other day. 

It sucked. I was angry, sad, resentful, and sick to my stomach. But, there was something different about this experience that I hadn’t been aware of before.

In today’s video, I examine what was so different about my recent experience and how it is offering me a whole new perspective on life and how to approach it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself unsure of what to do during times like this, I invite you to watch today’s video where I share my reflections that could be just the thing you’ve been looking for.

For so many of us, we do a lot of inner work so as to avoid feeling certain ways or experiencing certain parts of ourselves (at least, that was the case for me). 

What I’m learning is that the journey isn’t about avoiding but rather embracing all parts of ourselves (even the parts that feel painful or “bad” or undesirable). And for those of us on this spiritual quest, it can be all too easy to think we’re supposed to be all “light” when we’re here to experience the whole range. This is where true experience and healing can occur.

It’s not about getting to a place of all "light” and no “shadow” but rather no longer judging any of it as good or bad. {Tweet that!}

In order to be able to ask the questions that matter and uncover the Truth that lies within us, we first need to accept and embrace ALL of it. So the next time you think that you shouldn’t be feeling this way or you don’t want to experience this pain, I invite you to feel it all and embrace the full range of emotions of what it means to be alive and notice that in so doing you are, always have been, and always will be okay.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What does this bring up for you or what insights do you have to share? Post your learnings and reflections in the comments below so we can all learn from one another on this incredible journey.

Do you know someone who could benefit from living a fuller existence? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

With love & gratitude,

xoxo

Life-Altering Lessons Learned from the Sacred Valley

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Many of us are on a journey. For some of us, it is a physical journey traveling or nomad-ing around. For others, it is an inner, spiritual journey. And for some of you like me, it’s a combination of both.

As some of you may know, I am in the beautiful and sacred land of Peru where I am spending three weeks traveling and participating in an Embodying Love retreat (hosted by the incredible Cora Poage and Ginny Muir) and exploring the mystical and magical parts of this exquisite country (along with my inner world). And, what a powerful trip it has been!

Not only have I been blown away by the beauty of the land and the people of this country, but I have also been blown away by the lessons that this trip has in store for me.

In today’s blog, I share the top lessons this land has taught me during my time here on retreat as I reconnected with the Earth, my Inner Light, and experienced Divine Love on a cellular level.

If you’re anything like me and have ever found yourself wondering if you’re deserving of receiving this kind of love, I invite you to read today’s blog and be reminded of just how deserving you are and what exactly it takes (and doesn’t take).

As a lifelong member and current President of the Soulful Inquirer Club, I have gathered a lot of lessons and timeless reminders over the years. I’m always on the lookout for a new awareness or a-ha moment as I continue to reveal more and more of my True self.

It never fails to surprise me that many of the lessons we learn aren’t new lessons but rather ageless reminders that we’ve heard many, many times before. And so it was the case as I uncovered even more of my True self in the depths of the Sacred Valley in Peru. The lessons I learned here weren’t necessarily new but they resonated with me on a whole new level.

The thing I want to share most with you is that we are all deserving of Divine Love (with a capital “L”).

I was reminded on a deep, deep level that while there is a price of admission, there is one thing we do not need to buy into which totally blew my mind (and might blow yours, too).

So, what’s the cost (and what’s the belief we can give up once and for all)?

We do not need to suffer.

Yep, that’s right.

I know it might go against nearly every grain in your body—at least it did (does) mine. 

It became crystal clear to me just how undeserving I have felt of Divine Love because I haven’t suffered enough. I can recall all the times I told myself (and others) that I haven’t had enough tragedies or never “hit rock bottom” and, because of this, I developed a story that I wasn’t deserving. 

To top it off, because I hadn’t yet suffered enough (and believed I had to), I decided I needed to create more suffering in my life. I certainly couldn’t just go around as if everything was hunky-dory or enjoy life!

The lesson that hit me like a ton of bricks is the Truth that suffering is not a requirement to receiving the love, peace, and ease that each and every one of us are innately deserving.

While this may require a shift in paradigm or creating a whole new story, I invite you to really hear these words and see where in your own life you either feel undeserving or possibly even create suffering due to a belief like this.

Now that we have been reminded of what we no longer need to do to receive this Divine experience, let’s take a look at what is required of us. (We’re not off the hook completely.)

We do need to commit to radical self-responsibility.

As the youngest of four, it’s been all too easy for me to say those magic words more than once: “It wasn’t me."

My desire and ability to off-load responsibility at any opportunity has been pretty comfortable and easy for me for much of my life. However, what I’m learning more recently is that as I begin to see myself as a co-creator of my reality, taking responsibility is part of the game.

We are all deserving of love, peace, ease, and experiencing what it feels like to experience more of our True selves. The price of admission for this incredible ride includes taking full responsibility for each and every one of our choices. This may not always feel natural or comfortable, but the alternative is much less desirable. 

As we begin to take full responsibility and get out of our victim mindset (which the ego just loves!) we lighten our load and we begin to experience our own power. We acknowledge that we are responsible for how we feel, how we react, what we choose to do (or not do), and for all of the incredible love, peace, and ease we co-create in our lives.

Something I invite you to ponder is: Where are you not claiming responsibility in your life? What’s one thing you can take full responsibility for in this very moment?

The price of admission for Divine Love isn’t suffering; it’s radical self-responsibility. {Tweet that!}

One of the first things we can do is take responsibility for the suffering we have created in our lives and then, lovingly, choose a new way. 

We do not gain brownie points for being miserable and our suffering does not diminish the suffering of others—it simply keeps us from providing the love and light that is necessary in those situations.

Now that we have been invited to let go of the belief that we are not deserving unless we suffer, let’s commit to radical self-responsibility. I invite you to join me on this radical quest to notice all the ways we create our own reality and choose our own circumstances. While it may feel a little scary at first, I promise you the empowerment experienced far outweighs the fear.

After you’ve read the blog and reflected on the questions posed, share your commitment to choosing responsibility over suffering in the comments below the blog.

And, if you know someone who could benefit from being reminded of their deservingness and experience more love and peace through their own empowered choices, please share this with them.

With love & devotion.

One Way to Find Your Purpose

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is or how you can contribute to others in a meaningful way?

It’s taken me many years to recognize that my purpose and one way I can contribute to others has been right under my nose this entire time. 

Of course, I am a sucker for constant contemplation and examining just about everything that happens to me (so I just love this perspective that I share in this week’s video!).

In today’s video, I examine a few commonly held beliefs and add to it a dash of my own perspective to help point us in the direction of what our purpose is and how to find it.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wondering why you’re here and why you keep learning the same lessons over and over again, I invite you to watch today’s video where I offer up some ageless advice to help clarify this.

The question “what am I here for?” and “why does this keep happening to me?” may be more closely related than you first thought.

The more we see and learn from the lessons in each moment, the more we have to contribute to others. {Tweet that!}

In order to teach what we learn, we must first be willing to be a student. So, the next time you find yourself frustrated by a recurring situation or feeling, I invite you to pause, look for the lesson in it, see if it is similar to other lessons you are learning, and then consider how these lessons can inform your interactions with and contributions to others.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you believe you are here to learn and, ultimately, share with others? Share your insights and reflections in the comments below so we can be witness to the incredibly unique gifts and purposes we each possess.

Do you know someone who could benefit from getting clearer on their purpose? If so, please pass this along to them. It is always much appreciated!

P.S. If this question of purpose or other thoughts of guilt or doubt ever creep up on you, be sure to reserve your spot for (or receive a recording of) my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24! 

Ever Feel the Need to Change Someone?

Maybe it’s because I’m an idealist; maybe it’s because I see the best in everyone; maybe it’s because I’m a recovering control freak; but I just love to think I can change others—and, boy, I sure like to try. 

Whether it’s changing my partner to take care of himself better or change my brother’s perspective on a topic near-and-dear to my heart or encourage a stranger to be more mindful and less angry, I often take it upon myself to bring change about in the world. My mission statement that I wrote when I was 18-years-old was, “Reaching and changing lives through the performing arts.” Even then, I believed it was my duty (and within my power) to change others.

Now, this desire has (almost) always come from a place of love and wanting the best for others. Can’t people just see that I want the best for them and change, gosh-darnit? 

In today’s video, I share a few things I’ve heard recently which have helped bring me back to my center and remind me what’s within my control and what I’m really here to do.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself wanting to change others from time-to-time (or, let’s be honest, nearly everyday), I invite you to watch today’s video as I unpack a few reminders to help you keep your cool and remain in your own power.

There’s nothing wrong with having a desire to help and change others—often this comes from such a good place and there are really great things we can do in the world that have a positive effect on people. As Elizabeth Gilbert reminds us by referencing a Paul Tillich quote, "all love eventually becomes help."

When we do something from a place of love, we are offering help without force or expectation. {Tweet that!}

The next time you catch yourself trying to change someone else, use it as an opportunity to look within, see if you are currently walking your own talk and being the change you wish to see in the world, and then offer any thoughts, insights, or resources purely from a place of love.

It is not our job to change others; it is our job to look within and share what we find from a place of love. {Tweet that, too!}

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you do when you find yourself feeling the need to change someone else? Offer us your insights from a place of love in the comments below.

Do you know someone who could benefit from hearing this valuable reminder? If so, please pass it along and see the ripple effect we can create by walking our own talk and sharing what we learn from a place of love.

P.S. Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty that you should or shouldn’t be doing something or that you’re doing too much or not enough? If so, I’d love for you to join me on my upcoming FREE teleclass on November 24! Claim your spot here. 

How to Use Your Tools & Stay True to You

As a student of life, a self-help junkie, and a soulful inquirer, I’ve read a lot of books, taken a lot of courses, watched a lot of videos, and listened to a lot of podcasts. In the course of this, I’ve acquired hundreds of tools and pieces of advice—everything from meditation (in all its forms) to drinking hot lemon water to keeping a gratitude journal to reciting mantras to inquiring my thoughts to visualizations to doing yoga to many, many more.

And as an over-achieving student and dedicated disciple, I take these tools and teachings to heart and do my best to use each one and get (what a dear friend and mentor Cora Poage recently said) an A+ on my spiritual report card.

Perhaps you can relate.

It seems like everywhere we turn nowadays there is a new tool or technique or piece of advice that someone is offering us. For me, this can sometimes feel overwhelming, discouraging, or even distract me from the very thing I am trying to experience (such as relief, peace, or ease).

In today’s video, I share a fresh perspective to help bring us back to our center and experience that which we seek.

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The Only Tried and True Formula for Success

There is so much incredible information out there and thought leaders and teachers who share with us their tried and true formula for success.

As a self-help junkie and soulful inquirer, I can get into this loop that there’s only one way to do something (and if someone’s already figured it out then I’d better just do what they did—down to the letter) OR I get frustrated when I don't “get it right” or it won’t work for me.

I’m guessing I’m not the only one who has ever felt this way. 

We are bombarded by formulas and recipes and get-fill-in-the-blank-quick fixes.

Whether it’s from Kris Carr, Marie Forleo, Michael Hyatt, Brene Brown, Deepak Chopra, or a million other incredible teachers, there's a lot to learn from what has worked well for these incredibly successful individuals. And it's wonderful that people share their lessons learned in an easy to understand structure or format. 

However, there’s also a common trap that can occur.

In today’s video, I share what this trap is and how we can avoid it based on an important timeless reminder.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself thinking there’s only ONE way to do something or other people know better than you, I invite you to watch today’s video and be reminded of another formula for success. 

The next time you find yourself thinking that there's only one way to do something or thinking someone else knows better than you, pause and see if you can instead take the various ingredients and start to experiment with what works best for you and your unique tastes.

Experimentation is the only consistently tried and true formula for success. {Tweet that!}

Now, it’s your turn! Think of a time when you experimented recently and how did it go? Share your thoughts in the comments below so we can all be reminded of just how essential and successful experimentation truly is. 

If you happen to know someone who could benefit from hearing this essential timeless reminder and move beyond limitation or frustration, please share this with them.

How to Take Action While Accepting What Is

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I can remember it as if it were yesterday.

My face scrunched up that just screamed “judgment” all over it. I sat in my studio apartment and asked myself, “Now how can I possibly keep moving forward if I settle for accepting what is? Isn’t that just being passive? Won’t I become even more apathetic than I already am sometimes?"

These questions came fast and furious across my mind’s eye.

All I desired was to be at peace and to learn some common principles to experiencing joy and, yet, these questions seemed relentless. I figured there was no hope.

Well, luckily for me, I didn’t give up. I lived in the questions. I continued to inquire and seek answers from my own experience and based on the experiences of others.

Recently, in my Being Good with Being You program, these questions came up again from some of my participants so I figured it was time to share what I’ve learned with a wider audience.

In today’s blog, I share what exactly I learned when it came to resolving these questions and how I came to terms with no longer believing that being at peace is mutually exclusive from taking action.

If you’re anything like me and have found yourself asking one (or all) of these questions at least once, I invite you to read today’s blog and see for yourself how these two desires can live in harmony.

Here are a few of the questions that cropped up for me and for those I’ve been working with along with what I’ve discovered about each.

Isn’t observing really passive?

When we first start becoming a non-judgmental observer (the first step to truly loving what we have and experiencing peace in each moment), it can feel as if we aren’t doing much of anything. And sometimes we even wonder if we will ever take any form of action if we are simply observing.

My perspective (and experience that backs this up) is that observing is quite active. It is a conscientious action made in each moment.

It is by bringing awareness to something that we can shift it. Simply by bringing awareness to something changes it immediately. For instance, when we watch our breath or notice our walk or observe a performance or are observed at work, it changes that thing simply by being observed.

The knowledge of observation changes things and bringing awareness to our thoughts, feelings, or situation can have the exact same effect.

When we are aware in a non-judgmental way, we start to explore our creative possibilities along with our limitations. This isn’t a passive practice. When we are aware of ourselves without placing judgment on ourselves, we can maneuver more flexibly through life.

Don’t we need judgment to propel us forward and motivate us to improve?

This is also a super common belief and one that I definitely had and still catch myself noticing every once in a while.

When we are in judgment, what we do comes from a place of fear or hate. No good can come from that place, no matter how much action is taking place.

When we are in awareness, acceptance, and deep gratitude, what we do comes from a place of love. And, any forward movement we make from this place is in service of those involved.

Thing is, we don’t need to live in judgment to choose a life that is joyful, healthy, and in service to others.

When we are in pure awareness and acceptance, it becomes so much clearer what we want to pursue or how we want to serve, or how we desire to treat our bodies and those around us.

I finally realized that I don’t need judgment to eat better or get more sleep or pursue my passions. I now practice observing what is happening, accepting what is, and then make a decision in each moment that would serve me most.

How can we accept what is and not get lazy or apathetic?

This is a big one. I totally get this. I resisted accepting what is for quite some time. This manifested itself as stress, bi-polar outbursts, and experiencing life as a series of extreme highs and lows.

It was almost as if my ego was saying, “If I accept what is, how will I ever be happy?” or “If I accept what is, how will I ever get anything done?"

Now, I invite you to take a moment and really ponder these questions and ask yourself, is this true? Is it true that by accepting this moment, you won’t do anything? Is it true that happiness only comes by avoiding or resisting this moment?

When we accept what is, we are creating distance from our ego and living in alignment with the reality of the moment. We are honoring the present and seeing things for how they truly are, not how we wish they were.

Acceptance involves acknowledgment of the situation/person/feeling/etc. Acceptance isn’t a “stuffing down” of the situation or ignoring it.

Acceptance does not lead to apathy; acceptance leads to aligned and adaptive action. {Tweet that!}

Just because I accept that I lost my job doesn’t mean I don’t take action and find more work. Just because I accept that I got into a car accident doesn’t mean I don’t take action and fix my car.

Once I accepted that I have a tendency to be perfectionistic, I was able to be more mindful of those moments and choose to respond differently, if necessary. The acceptance didn’t keep me stuck as a perfectionist—actually, quite the opposite thing happened. By accepting those qualities of mine, I was able to get to a place of being less identified with them and see them for what they are non-judgmentally and then make new choices in each moment by responding to what is rather than reacting based on my egoic patterns.

As Eckhart Tolle says, “Egoic patterns, even long-standing ones, sometimes dissolve almost miraculously when you don’t oppose them internally."

Acceptance is the crux from which everything else flows. Once we begin to accept what is, we can let go of the suffering and anything that is no longer serving us, and we can take action in a more clear and aligned way.

Now it's your turn! Let us know how you’ve learned to practice both acceptance and action simultaneously. Leave your thoughts in the comments below this blog.

If you happen to know someone who could benefit from hearing these ideas and feeling more at ease about practicing acceptance and still taking action, please share this with them.

With endless appreciation,

P.S. If you’re curious how to practice acceptance and action at the same time, go ahead and grab a complimentary, no-pressure consultation with me where we can see if my Ready to SOAR coaching program is a good fit for you.

How to Overcome Failure

I tend to pay attention when the same thing appears over and over again in my world. Lately, this has been creativity and failure.

So I figured why not create this week’s Thoughtful Thursday on this very thing?

Just the other day, I listened to Elizabeth Gilbert’s podcast, Magic Lessons, with Brene Brown. Wow! 30-minutes jam-packed with nuggets of wisdom and inspiration. (Be sure to check it out if you haven't already done so.)

As I listened to them chat, it dawned on me that the same reason we give up when we experience failure (or feel as if we aren’t good enough) is the same reason many of us don’t experience the life we desire. They were totally speaking my language!

For so many of us, failure is a bad word.

This sure was true for me most of my life! And, if we have the courage to encounter it, we often use it as a reason to stop what it is we are doing.

In today's video, I address this fear and how to overcome it.

If you’re anything like me and have found that failure or shame has kept you from creating something in the world (or trying again), you won’t want to miss today’s video.

Failure is an opportunity to notice how we are—and always will be—okay. {Tweet that!}

The next time you face a little failure, be more empathetic, notice how you are still okay, and then ask yourself if you are willing to do it again.

Now it’s your turn! What is your favorite tool or technique to overcome failure? Share in the comments below so we can learn from one another and have more people who are willing to see that failure is offering us an opportunity rather than a threat.

If you know anyone who could benefit from hearing these inspirational messages about overcoming failure, please be sure to share this with them.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. Keep an eye out (or be sure to sign up) for some upcoming exciting announcements! I’m feeling into this season of change and will be offering up some new ways to deliver value and expanding some of what I already do. 

How to Handle Those Pesky Voices in Your Head

As a former actor, I’ve always enjoyed creating characters and learning who they are and what they have to say, and then getting to speak as if I were them.

Over the past few years, as I’ve worked with coaches, mentors, and done more self-discovery, I’ve been introduced to the different characters that play out their drama in my very own mind.

We all have these characters (or voices) that live inside our head and who try to be in constant dialogue with us (and each other). Many times these voices can really get the better of us.

Recently, I noticed that one of these voices of mine (my inner critic) started telling me that I’m not working hard enough and I’m starting to slip into an old pattern of giving up and not seeing something through to the end.

In the past, I would have either believed this voice hook, line, and sinker and gone into total panic or self-loathing, or I would have tried to stifle this voice and pretend it didn’t exist.

Now, after having learned a more effective tool based on my work with Michelle James (a Creative Emergence coach), I have an alternate approach to handling the voices in my head.

If you’re anything like me and sometimes have a hard time knowing what to do when that voice starts yammering on about this fear or that doubt or this concern or that judgment, be sure to watch today’s video where you’ll learn a new approach (and one that has helped many of my clients, too). 

Though they can be pesky, the voices in our head can offer us a lot of wisdom if we change how we interact with them. {Tweet that!}

The next time you hear those voices rattling on and find that simply observing them just isn’t doing the trick, give this tool a try and see if you feel a shift and notice the voice getting a little less pesky over time.

Now it’s your turn! What is your favorite tool for handling the voices in your head? Share in the comments below so we can all have a few more tools in our tool belt when it comes to engaging with our egos.

If you know anyone who could benefit from being free from the grips of the voices in their head and uncover the wisdom that lies within, please be sure to share this with them.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. If you desire to have someone serve as your guide as you experiment with this tool (and many others), go ahead and grab a complimentary session with me here.

How to Make Peace with Uncertainty

Being a nomad brings with it a lot of uncertainty. Of course, uncertainty is not unique to a nomad—all of us experience uncertainty from time to time. 

Having had quite a few experiences with uncertainty throughout my life, I spent some time reflecting on how I have learned to get more cozy with it and feel more empowered than I ever did before.

Here are a few things I’ve learned that might help you make peace with uncertainty.

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Less Is More ... Unless We're Talking about Presence

It dawned on me just the other day just how information-saturated we are as a society. It's hard to go 5 minutes without being bombarded by more information. 

I realize this is not a new concept and I've probably recognized it for quite some time now, but it really struck me the other day as I recognized just how much I, too, play into this culture of quantity over quality.

In this video, I am going to practice the art of "less is more" and offer up just one nugget of wisdom for you to chew on. (Though I believe this one nugget will be plenty to chew on.)

Sometimes more is not more. Sometimes more is simply too much. {Tweet that!}

I want to start being more mindful of the "what" more than the "how much" as I move forward and continue to offer up content to my audience. I believe we can all be more mindful of this as we continue to live in a world where we have more than enough information at our fingertips at any moment of the day.

We don't need more—to be more, do more, have more. We (and the present moment) are already more than enough.

Now it's your turn (because we all know just one nugget isn't enough)! ;)

What is one "mindful moment" you've heard or said recently? Please share it in the comments below or in the Facebook group.

With gratitude ...

P.S. If this one nugget didn't completely satisfy you, be sure to sign up to download my free ebook, "You Mean I'm NOT Doing It Wrong? A Recovering Perfectionist's Guide to Being Good with Being You" where I offer up more than one piece to chew on.

 

Want to Know How I Turned My Perfectionism on Its Head?


You know that moment when you hit “send” and then think “oh, crap"? 

This happened to me (twice!) just the other week.

I realized the error but it was too late. It was gone. The internet had magically delivered it. There was no turning back.

I was starting the pre-launch of my virtual program, Being Good with Being You, and was so excited to share some free videos with my incredible audience (aka you).

At the same time, I decided to switch my blogging platform to my website and change how my blogs are sent to my list of loyal readers (again, you).

Right in the midst of my pre-launch, the magical mystical incomprehensible internet decided to send the same blog post to my list twice in the same day, only minutes apart.

My gut sank. Oh, no. Here I am, already sending out a number of emails and videos to my audience with the intent to offer value and inspiration and now I’m inundating their inbox with a duplicate message!

I took a moment to think about what I ought to do. The perfectionist in me was screaming, “Fix it!! Make it right!! Send another message explaining what happened so all can be forgiven!!"

Then, another voice (which happened to be the voice of a dear friend of mine) said, “It’s fine. Better not to send another email at this point."

Finally, another voice (this one coming from deep within) said, “It is what it is. Just surrender."

Just to be sure that I truly knew how to surrender my perfectionism and test my ability to stay calm through it all, the universe (or the internet, whichever you prefer to call it) decided to test me one more time just a few days later.

This time, an email got sent out with a glaring error in it. It wasn’t just a word that was misspelled or a comma out of place. It was an entire copy-and-paste-gone-wrong scenario.

Again, my heart sank and the perfectionist was ready to fight. Luckily, this time, my deeper voice was quicker on the scene and immediately reminded me to take a few breaths and surrender. It is what it is.

A major theme in my work lately has been about perfectionism and seeing how it’s cropped up in my own life time and time again, and just how limiting it can be. (If you haven’t done so already, be sure to download my free ebook on this very topic.)

With all of this introspection, I started to judge the word “perfect” as destructive and avoided using it as often as possible. I stood firmly that perfectionism only limits us and is something that needs to be overcome.

The reason I have taken this stance so vigorously in the past is because I have seen and personally experienced the negative impacts from striving for perfection. I know I’m not the only one who sees or experiences this. It bombards our society, our marketing, our bookshelves, our conversations, you name it.

Recently, I finished reading Michael Singer’s book, “The Surrender Experiment,” and he uses the word “perfect” quite a bit. At first, I was put off by it and resisted the use of that word. Then, I paused and noticed how he was using it. It wasn’t in the way many of us might think.

A few days later I was doing my Morning Pages and it struck me, “What if my definition of perfectionism no longer serves me? What if there is another definition?"

What if “perfect” doesn’t mean something going exactly the way I want it to and living up to my standards and, rather, perfectionism is when something goes exactly as it’s meant to?

This new perspective allows me to no longer have the same recoiling reaction I’ve had to the word “perfect.” I now see how everything that occurs when we release our own expectations, limitations, or control is just that. 

When we release our grip on our own perfectionism, we are free to experience the perfectionism of the universe. {Tweet that!}

For an instant gratification society, this may not be the most ideal working definition because it might take some time to see how a moment or an event is indeed perfect. This requires trust that everything is exactly as it’s meant to be. But it is well worth it. The freedom and expansion that comes from this belief is transformative.

As I think back on my two recent email “blunders,” I now see how they provided me with a perfect opportunity to surrender and share this message with others.

Had those emails not gone out with “imperfections,” inspiration for this message would not have been received, and this post would not have been written and shared.

Now it's your turn! What is your working definition of “perfect”? I’d love to hear what you think so please take a moment to share your thoughts in the comments below.

With love & gratitude,

P.S. I felt a strong calling to switch it up this week and publish a written blog instead of a video. I’d love to hear what you think and if you happen to prefer one over the other! Leave it in the comments below or share it on my Facebook page

What I've Learned about Being Enough

I’ve done a lot of “soul searching” and learning how to “fix” myself over the course of my life and most of this brought me to a realization (or rather a story I chose to believe) that I’m not good enough.

Here’s the thing. Over the last few years, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’ve always been enough, and it’s not about “fixing” it’s more about “releasing” that which no longer serves me or the higher version of myself.

Still, that doesn’t mean every day is a cake walk. I still have doubts and the questions, “Am I good enough?” and “Who am I?” still creep in.

If any of this rings true for you, I invite you to watch today's video as I share with you part of my real and raw story of what I’ve learned from not being enough.

Just because certain stories feel real sometimes doesn’t mean they are true. {Tweet that!}

And so even if my life isn’t “perfect,” I still have something valuable to share because I believe we are all lightbulbs shining light on the collective unconscious and the more lightbulbs we turn on, the better we all can see.

Now it’s your turn! What’s your story? What have you learned about being enough?  Leave a comment in the Facebook post or below this blog. I'd love to support each other as we get real and raw.

Shine your light in whatever way you want. Know that you have everything within you. You are enough. {Be a lightbulb and tweet that, too!}

With love & gratitude,

Amanda

PS If you haven't already heard the exciting news, you can now get a copy of my FREE ebook that explores this whole idea a whole lot further. Get your copy today!